Waking Up Full of Awesome

There was a time when you were five years old,
and you woke up full of awesome.
 
You knew you were awesome.
 
You loved yourself.
 
You thought you were beautiful,
even with missing teeth and messy hair and mismatched socks inside your grubby sneakers.
 
You loved your body, and the things it could do.
 
You thought you were strong.
 
You knew you were smart.
  
Do you still have it?
The awesome.
 
Did someone take it from you?
Did you let them?
Did you hand it over, because someone told you weren’t beautiful enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough?
Why the hell would you listen to them?
Did you consider they might be full of shit?
 
Wouldn’t that be nuts, to tell my little girl below that in another five or ten years she might hate herself because she doesn’t look like a starving and Photoshopped fashion model?
Or even more bizarre, that she should be sexy over smart, beautiful over bold?
Are you freaking kidding me?
 
Look at her. She is full of awesome.
 
You were, once. Maybe you still are. Maybe you are in the process of getting it back.
 
All I know is that if you aren’t waking up feeling like this about yourself, you are really missing out.
 

Amelia says Good Morning.

 

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Update: As I type this, on Sept 15, this post has 412,00 views. I hope that means 412,000 people choosing to live their awesome.

With all the fanfare, since Pigtail Pals is a tshirt company for kids…..we made up some tshirts full of awesome. I hope you like them.

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Comments

  1. Great post! I never want my little girl to forget that, either.

  2. I. Love. This. Post. THANK YOU!!!

  3. Anne-Marie says:

    I woke up today so scared and down. I totally needed this! Thank you!!!!

  4. This post is full of awesome. Thank you.

  5. Beautiful!

  6. Awesome awesome post!! I agree totally, and ask that same question often!!

  7. Thanks for posting this!! I fall into the “getting it back” category, thanks to an eating disorder after I bought into society’s lie of telling women that they must me thin. I won though, and I’m healthy and happy!

    And I just want to thank you for all of your posts; when I’m a mom in the future, I hope that I will be able to teach my girl all of the stuff you talk about on here. And even now when I teach girls violin, I’m definitely a Pigtail Pal!! :)

  8. This seriously made my day, week, month…Thank you!!

  9. Oh my goodness… as the mother of 3 girls (ages 2, 4, 6) this post is AWESOME! LOVE it!!!

  10. LOVE.THIS.POST.

    I’m determined to wake up full of awesome tomorrow :)

  11. Love this, couldnt have said it better myself. I dont think I ever lost my awesomeness, and it sounds like you havent either ;)

  12. Love this!

  13. mamarocks says:

    My daughter inspires me everyday to wake up awesome! I hope that I do the same for her!

  14. “Feeling full of awesome,” I can’t tell you how much I love that line and this post! Thank you!

  15. This is amazing… I will be sharing this with my social networks. Simply wonderful!

  16. Awesome picture !!
    Thank you for sharing :)

  17. LOVE LOVE LOVE This post!! and the picture is AWESOME!!!

  18. There is one very fortunate little girl who has a mom with her head and heart working perfectly in concert.

    I had a mom like you and I will be grateful til my dying day. And probably beyond!

  19. This post-pig-tailer is getting very frustrated with seeing some dorky title that is NOT my last blog! I couldn’t get it to go away. I think WordPress is having an aneurysm today. :D

  20. Sometimes, I think that even if we DO wake up full of awesome…we downplay it. As adults, it seems less acceptable to walk around ‘tooting your own horn’, so to speak. Why is that?

    • That is a good question, and I think it has a lot to do with the Crab Bucket Theory, and more people than not never learning to live creative, authentic lives.

      But I think knowing and feeling you are awesome is different than telling everyone you are awesome. If you are truly that awesome, you won’t have to tell people, they’ll know it by your actions.

  21. this is AMAZING. I want to share this with everyone…

  22. I so love this!! I am in the process of re-claiming my awesome and teaching other mommies to do the same. I want my daughter to never lose it, as it seems she already has her mommy’s desire for perfection and fear of trying new things lest she fail. I know she’s my mini-me… but this is ridiculous. I want her to always stand in her own power and know her value, and it’s my job to figure out how to instill that in her even now, so that she always owns her awesomeness.

  23. What a cute little girl, and wake up with full awesomeness…

  24. I have an awesome daughter and now trying to convince a new almost daughter in law how awesome she is. Even when they are 20 something it is important to make sure they know how fully awesome they are. Great post!

  25. Just imagine, if we could get all girls to remember to keep the awesome they had when they were five! This is such a great post, obviously inspired by a great little girl!

  26. AWESOME! I love waking up there- my boys think I’m a princess so I’ll just go with it! I know I am :)

  27. when I hear of a little girl who has died… after my eyes sting and fill with tears… I find solace in deciding that she could fly higher and closer to the Sun by leaving this world…. I rejoice in Amelia… and when I can find my Spirit… I will look at this picture and know it can’t really have left me… Go Amelia… and all the other little warriors… I salute U!!!!
    k

  28. It is such a sad day when the “awesome” is taken from you by people who are full of s***! I am so glad this world is beginning to wake up! Thank you for your blog!

  29. Laura Wasmer says:

    at age 47, I had my Ah-Ha moment on August 8, 2011, and finally I am waking up Full of Awesome! Life seems so much lighter, brighter, and free :D

  30. wow! this is great – thanks for the smile today!

  31. Not going to lie…I let people steal my awesomeness but at almost 40 I am getting it back!

    Yep..this post made me teary, and it also made me poke my 5 year old and once getting her attention I reminded her…hey cutieboots – YOU ARE AWESOME!

    Very cool – thank you!

  32. Thanks for this – a truly awesome post my 17 year old awesome daughter & I agreed :)

  33. <3

  34. This is supremely awesome. You’re so right. I let someone take my awesome, my own mother, because she felt bad about someone taking hers. I’m striving to encourage my daughter to feel her awesome for the rest of her life. Thanks for helping put it in perspective, and for a great blog that keeps us thinking about how to help our daughters, and even ourselves, feel the awesome.

  35. OMG, this is…awesome! Thanks for making my day!!!

  36. I am going to read this every day, and make sure everyone in my household wake up with awesome. What a great little article. Priceless!

  37. Thanks for this post… it’s hard when your mother’s the one who took your awesome, for whatever reason. But I’m working on reclaiming it! Thank you for the reminder! :)

  38. The real problem is that women only get to pick one trait. and that’s oppression, folks! Well, oppression and the american cognitive culture.

  39. Debbie Orlando says:

    Thank you for the web site….WOW… I am now a grandmother of 5 beautiful girls, mother of 5 beautiful young women….. The lessons to be learned as mothers is, remind your daughters everyday how awesome they are!….We get pulled down and aside with all the day to day “things” that we think have to be done… and then the years are behind us and we realize we did not give our daughters as much as they needed to believe they are awesome!!!! Sad isn’t it? The power of a woman is much, to much, under appreciated and under estimated!

    Thank you for the great web site and post.
    Grandma Debbie
    Mom and
    “Captain Debbie”
    Motor Yacht “Donna Perignon”

  40. http://youtu.be/xAbR6_u-4ZM … Love the post ! Reminded me of an old and happy song.

  41. This post is the most ‘awesome’ :) thing I have read in a long, long, long time. Thank you for reminding us to hold fast and hold tight to our awesome, no matter what age….

  42. ::LOOOOOOOOOVE:: :D

  43. Nancy McCabe says:

    This is an awesome web site….I am not quite sure who and/or wrote it but I love it and all the responses! It really makes me think back when Iwas a girl with my older sister….she was so beautiful… Then I am thinking about when my girls were this age and so simple, happy, very self assured!! I’m laying here now with so many thoughts and memories going through my mind! Thanks so much….

  44. Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    – Marianne Williamson

  45. I am a mom to 4 girls ages 6, 9, 12, and 14 and soon to be step mom to another girl age 3. I love the message here, and I am trying so hard every day to teach my girls their worth and how to be fierce and self loving and kind all at the same time… Whew it’s a big job!

    The first lesson was leaving my abusive husband of 15 years and surviving after he went to jail for bringing a gun to my house. Lesson two has been about responsibility for our choices and forgiving myself for my mistakes.

    Lesson 3 is learning to trust and love again. I’m finally getting my Awesome back!

  46. This post hits home on so many levels. Such great words of wisdom for me as a mom raising girls and as a women in my 40’s getting my grove back.

    • What an awesome thing to read this morning – I have been getting back my ‘awesome’ ever since I hit 40. It seems after the 40 mark, it doesn’t really matter anyways, right? Might as well let it all hang out and enjoy the rest of the ride. lol ( it’s much more fun anyways, even if the teenagers go “MooOOOooM” in exasperation… the hubby secretly enjoys it! lol)

    • I’ve been exercising and improving my aerobic capacity and getting healthier. I gave birth to my incredible gushing source of AWESOME when I was like 38 and I want to be around for her a long time — plus I want to show her that yes, even grown ups need to take care of their bodies. We sprint to school in the morning – it’s a RACE! :)

  47. I turned 40 and started growing balls… I am so working to get my awesome back… wonderful post… wonderful message… keep em coming! First time visitor… but not the last!

  48. A-FRIGGIN-MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  49. This is a powerful message to our daughters and grand daughters and you know what? It’s a powerful message for ourselves as well. It will make you smile. Go ahead, wake up full of awesome – I’m gonna :)

  50. Oh my this is fabulous! Thanks so much for writing it- for me, and for my children.

  51. this? is awesome!!

  52. If anyone were to tell my daughter she is anything less than awesome, I would sock them in the nose. So why would I tell my mother’s daughter that she is anything less than awesome?

  53. Fan-friggin-tastic! I am going to wake up tomorrow and feel awesome.

  54. I really needed to read this in this very moment in time. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR REMINDING ME OF THIS!!!

  55. I was never a real girl (grew up with six brothers). I spent the first 12 years of my life thinking I was fine (life was good), the next 34 thinking something was patently wrong with me (I was supposed to like makeup and dresses), and finally have realized that I don’t give a rip.

    • raynforestgirl says:

      I know what you mean! I’m from a family of 5 girls and 1 boy, but I was a wild and dirty “tom boy” and tougher than any of the boys in my class. It has been hard at times to help people to accept that I don’t need makeup and dresses to make me a woman. It’s harder yet to see how we continue to turn girls into delicate, catty objects rather than allowing them to flourish and keep their awesome…

  56. HouseOfKards says:

    Love this! My awesome daughter tells everyone that she isn’t a “girly girl”, so I appreciate the idea of redefining what that term means. She is a proud dress-wearing “tom boy” who lives life to the fullest and who is teaching me to embrace my own “awesome” once again. : )

  57. Wow! BEST. POST. EVER!!

  58. Your kid is great! She oozes awesome! Your post made my day. I love the picture. Keep up the good work. Keep being awesome!

  59. Linda Ronan says:

    This is all great stuff for our daughters, granddaughters and so on and on…

  60. This is terrific, true & inspirational to many. Im going to share this with friends who are in search of their awesome… & ill smile for sure today when I see my kids proudly display their awesome!!!!!!

  61. I have two daughters, and I often worry about them losing their positive self image as they deal with the pressures society puts on women. I hope they are able to stay strong.

    In addition to that, this message has really inspired me personally. Far too often in my life I’ve let other people’s negativity bring me down. I have a personal example that really speaks to this.

    For over 10 years, while my company (Frogdice games) was successful and people loved our games, I never fully grasped the level of our success because of so many people that told us we were small, that our games were niche, etc.

    Then a few years ago, some random people tried to delete our oldest game’s entry from Wikipedia, and thousands of people came out of nowhere from all over the industry to defend and praise our game. We fought off the deletion, and in the process generated the longest “AfD (Article for Deletion)” discussion in Wikipedia’s history (to that time). This was a wake up call for us. We realized that a lot more people love our games and our company than we thought.

    It inspired us to grow the company in new ways and in new directions. As a result of that, we just this month released our first mass market game: Coin ‘n Carry (http://www.coinncarry.com).

    It is the first game in our company’s history that ANYONE can play – regardless of age, how hardcore of a gamer you are, how much time you have, etc. It is a major step forward for the company, and it wouldn’t have been possible if we’d kept listening to people who told us we were small and insignificant.

    Anyway, great message here. Thank you,

    • Um, Michael, is this an advertisement? Not seeing the connection to awesome chick stuff dude.

    • Michael…You mentioned your daughters exactly once…in passing. I’m working hard to unremember any game names mentioned here. Go post on the game boards.

  62. Did not lose my awesomeness until I got married, and it isn’t even my husband’s fault; he loves me just the way I am. I am the one telling myself I have to be this way or that, because of society. I never cared what society thought before, I do not know why I waited till my 40’s and marriage to start caring now. I needed this! I will wake up awesome from now on! Thank you so much!!!

    • Tonya,

      I was the same way. Of course, I got married when I was only 23 years old and I’m 51 now! But it seems as soon as I got married I started to lose my awesomeness. My husband is loving, caring, patient…really a great guy and husband. It’s me that allowed him to “take care of me”, thus sapping my awesome. I’m working on getting it back now.

  63. Thank you for reminding me that somewhere inside I am still AWESOME and to remind my kids everyday that no matter what they are AWESOME too. OMG if everyone in the world felt this way everyday wouldn’t it be a better (more fun) place to live. Thanks again AWESOME MOM!

  64. Oh, she is awesome, all right! And with a mom as smart as you she will totally know it forever!

  65. I’ve never posted publicly anywhere before but was moved by this post to say “well said”. Tomorrow I’ll wake up with my awesome back!

  66. Too often, too many of us, girls and boys and women and men, wake up full of something else that smells (noses? Almost), so if each of us, from three to ninety-three, would resolve to wake up awesome just one day a week every week, who knows how much more we could all get accomplished?
    Go. Get. Some. Awe. Some.
    Now.

  67. BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!!!!
    THANK YOU!

  68. Thank you, Sarah. As a 13 year old girl this means a lot to me. I am going to print it out and put it on my board of awesomeness.

    But in all seriousness, that really hit home with me and will be a daily pick-me-up until I really believe it.

  69. Jacques Wilmore says:

    Food for thought. Especially me being a single parent, with a 6-year old daughter. Thanks you.

    ~ Jacques

  70. Aine Branch says:

    I have been accused of being intimidating, arrogant, egotistical only because I have never let anybody steal my Awesome. Thank you for writing the best article ever

  71. thank you, such an inspiring piece. i hope tomorrow when i wake up, i am full of awesomeness :)

  72. i’m touched with this article. :)

  73. Thank you! Something I really needed to read and share. Putting this into practice and teach the little girls in my life as well. :)

  74. Love, love love this post! Seriously, it’s fantastic!!!

  75. When you have an 11 or 12 year old, and think back to when they where five, it really is socking how much more they care about what society thinks. Thanks for putting your finger on this, a cause worth fighting for till my daughtier is 50… Yes, and my mothers daughter too…..

  76. Yes. Yes she is full of (and fully) AWESOME! :D GREAT post- as good as coffee to me this morning!

  77. Getting it back a little bit *every day*. Great post! Sometimes “back then” feels like it was a time belonging to a totally different person.

  78. “Did you hand it over, because someone told you weren’t beautiful enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough?”

    – Or (for us skinny girls), not curvy enough, not womanly enough?
    – Or (for us laid-back girls), not bold enough?
    – Or (for us dark-haired, olive-skinned girls), not blonde enough or rosy-cheeked enough?
    – Or (for us girls with chronic illnesses), not strong enough and not healthy enough?
    – Or (for us girls who struggle with depression), not perky enough?
    – Or (for us girls who don’t want to be CEO), not ambitious enough?
    – Or (for us moms who don’t coddle our children), not doting enough?
    – Or (for us wives who don’t coddle our husbands), not loving enough?

    “Wouldn’t that be nuts, to tell my little girl below that in another five or ten years she might hate herself because she doesn’t look like a starving and Photoshopped fashion model?”

    – Or, she might hate herself because she has a chronic disease that DOES make her look like a starving person, during an era when it is wrong to comment on a woman’s weight if she’s heavier BUT somehow OK to comment on, draw attention to, and make assumptions about a woman’s weight if she’s thin?
    – Or, she might hate herself (or at least her body) because she is skinny and her husband is falling for another woman who’s curvier?
    – Or, she might hate herself (or at least her body) because she’s seeing Facebook posts, blogs, articles, etc., everywhere that talk about the wonderfulness of being curvy/”womanly” (and sometimes talking about the “unnaturalness” of being thin) and not seeing many curves in the mirror?

    “Or even more bizarre, that she should be sexy over smart, beautiful over bold?”

    – Or, that she “should” be ANYTHING that she’s not?

    Let’s please remember that when we set up ANY characteristic as the definition of “awesome,” we are taking the “awesome” from anyone who doesn’t have that characteristic.

    We are ALL awesome…and we ALL need to wake up feeling it every morning!

  79. Wonderful post! Found you through a friend who shared this on Facebook. My daughter is 11 and still has her awesome – I hope she never loses it because i know exactly what you mean….

  80. This is great. I am a mom to two very little girls and hope that I can always help them feel awesome. Love it.

  81. Karen Rose says:

    I have two daughters about to have birthdays, one 41 and one 37. Their lives are full of working, mothering, trying to keep up the house, meeting all the obligations of society’s picture of being a loving mom, a good wife, an asset to their work place, etc. They are overwhelmed with trying to be wonderful in each of their roles. In trying to be everything to everybody I think they have forgotten how awesome they are. I sent this to them to remind them. It is the best birthday gift I could have given them. Thank you!

    • Karen Rose, not only was this post a tremendous gift to me, but your comment was an even bigger gift to me. I don’t know my mom, but my MIL is always telling me how hard moms are on themselves these days compared to when she was raising her kids. I forget it all the time because I am just like your daughters. I’m 40, one 8 y.o. amazing son and I am running myself ragged every day between my day job, my kiddo, relocating to a new city and trying to settle my family into our new home & school, blah blah blah. Where is my awesome? It is there, I just plum forgot all about it! I AM AWESOME TOO.

    • That is so touching to hear. Thank you.

  82. I was referred to this from a friend and I’m so glad she did! No truer words were spoken. I just found a pic of me around 5 and I was, in fact, awesome with my cowboy hat and Darth Vadar shirt. (The same Darth Vadar shirt my future husband had at the same age…now THAT is awesome!)

  83. Your daughter rocks! I have twin 5 yr old girls and although they are full of awesome, I already hear them saying things like they wish their hair were a different color (because of our race, only something artificial can make us other than brunette!). I remind them that God does not make mistakes and he sees inside their heart and measures beauty by what he sees there. It’s a tough battle though, even G-rated Barbie and princess videos make them want to be what they aren’t let alone the stuff out there for older girls/teens and women.

  84. Tara Verity says:

    40 seems to be the magic number for me too. 40 is my new 20 for sure…I am indeed getting the awesomeness back that was stolen from me for way too many years!

  85. Juli MacDonald says:

    Gloria Steinhem’s The Revolution Within looks closely at this issue and reviews studies that show how girls feelings about themselves plummet as they grow up. As parents, being aware of societal influences, pressures and messed-up expectations can help us to change the pattern. Her book is on self-esteem – a must-read classic.

  86. My name is chelsea, and i am 18, i have not woke up feeling like this for a really long time, but this has inspired me to get it back :) thank you

  87. I love this, it is going to hang on my fridge. I am going to take it to my kids school and let the teachers and parents read it. What a perfectly great reminder of what it means to give love and be loved!

  88. I love it. Totally true and awesome.
    Made me remember this fantastic video of a little girl named Jessical who is VERY full of awesome:

  89. BonnieMargaret says:

    This should become a poster. It is so horribly true.

  90. Chairettie says:

    I miss my awesome, I want my awesome back! I think I will chase it down and start waking up Awesome again :) THANX!!!

  91. Stephanie Watson says:

    Just a great post. :)

    It also makes me think about a reaction my 7 year old daughter has to something. She has a top that she doesn’t wear to school any longer, as she has told me that one of her girl friends calls her “sexy” when she wears it and that my daughter does not like that. And, it’s not a “sexy” top at all. It’s one of those loose fit outdoor shirts that you can wear in the water.

    I’m happy she can make a decision that comfortable for her, but, it kinda makes me sad that there are 7 year olds out there using “sexy” as compliments.

  92. Thanks from this mom to a little girl who I hope always remembers she is awesome! (And that I am always there to remind her)

  93. Cindy Hoskey says:

    This post is wonderful. I am going to print out a pic of your fabulous daughter to put on my fridge as a reminder to let my kids be their own awesome selves and that I am awesome, too!

  94. Every day I try to find at least one positive thing – this is it for today. Our society is killing our youth (of course being told in words and action that you are “less than” is not new.) My daughter knows I think she is awesome and I think she is blessed with the same “abnormally high self-esteem” gene I have. She notices and tells me about her friends whose parents tell them “you need to lose weight” or “you need to get straight A’s or you’re not trying hard enough” or “it’s a good thing you’re smart because you are not that pretty.” Yeah, actual examples…gets me a bit teary just typing it. So, you ROCK your and your daughter’s awesomeness because we all are.

  95. Dorothy: Oh, will you help me? Can you help me?
    Glinda: You don’t need to be helped any longer. You’ve always had the power to go back to AWESOME.
    Dorothy: I have?
    Scarecrow: Then why didn’t you tell her before?
    Glinda: Because she wouldn’t have believed me. She had to learn it for herself.

  96. I love it!!!!!!!! your daughters pic is adorable and it reminds me of my 5 year old. Thanks for posting.

  97. this made me so sad…because I realized that someone stole my “awesome” when I was just 4 years old — when I was sexually abused. I’ve been fighting to get it back ever since.

    For all of the little girls who have been fighting their whole lives to get the awesome back — that was literally stolen from them — <3

    • Yeah me too. Don’t remember ever feeling full of awesome. I was 7, so maybe I had my awesome before then but I don’t remember it.

    • Same. I don’t remember waking up with awesome. I was 7 so I must have had it before then but I don’t remember it.

    • Rockin' it says:

      Guys no. They did not steal your awesome. You’ve still got it. I was 9. It took a while to find it again, but it’s there. F’ck yeah! Go get it. It’s yours. Not the weak little prick’s who abused a kid. Don’t give up that easily.

      • My parents instilled a strong sense of awesome in me. It was taken from me at five years old, but I’ve handed it over regularly to the men in my life ever since. Now I keep looking for men to give my awesome back to me. I need to find it again, but I don’t know that I have much left of it for myself.

        If I ever have a daughter I am going to tell her how awesome she is, too. But I will also tell her to never give it away to anyone, because one day she will be 33 and feel its absence.

        • Sunshine –
          This isn’t something someone gives you. It is there. It is inside. It might just be small and not glowing yet. The search you need to do needs to take place inside yourself. Go quietly, at first. Take little sips from places and things and people and music and foods that fill up your soul. It will start to grow, and you will start to glow.

          It is there. Inside you. You gave some of it away, but not all of it.

    • Valley –
      We share a similar story. I still have my awesome. Yours is there too. Don’t stop looking for it. It is there.

  98. This is so true! And what a shocker to realize that I’m not waking up thinking I’m full of awesome. I’m thinking reclaiming awesome might be on every woman’s resolution list.

  99. This is such a wonderful sentiment. I have two daughters, 8 and 5, and I want to make sure they always wake up full of awesome.

  100. Becky Karch says:

    This is fabulous and will now become my new motto! Such wisdom and optimism. Love it!!!

  101. She’s fantastic. Thanks for reminding me that I am, too.

  102. I left a bad marriage when my daughter was 5 because my ex was slowing stealing our awesome. He almost broke my spirit and was in danger of breaking his daughter’s too. I couldn’t handle the thought of him changing the fabulous, full of joy, little girl she was. I’m happy to say that little girl is now 27 and is full of awesome! Me, the older I get the more awesome I feel.

  103. This post is AWESOME!!!

  104. I LOVE this. It makes me feel Awesome! :)

  105. …This made me cry. In that, “Oh this feeling sucks so much but catharsis feels good afterwards” kind of way.

  106. Um yes. I’m pretty sure they were full of shit.
    :)

  107. I love this! So true!

  108. Fantastic post. AWEsome, in fact!

  109. Awesome post! I am sharing this with my girlfriends.

  110. Childhood Megalomania.

  111. This, is one AWESOME article!!!

    It’s “full of awesome” :)

  112. “Why the hell would you listen to them?”

    That’s the tone my father took when he took my awesome from me. Consider using a different tone than the one used to rob people of their awesome. Consider further that no one GIVES it away. It’s only ever taken. Consider thirdly that the only reason people don’t take it back–a process that can take a lifetime–is they were so thoroughly beaten into believing they didn’t have the right or the power to do so. That lifetime process, of undoing the lie that holds awesome away isn’t much bolstered by the taunt of “you are really missing out”–believe me when I tell you, anyone in the process knows perfectly well.

    Now, the rest of your blog post is full of awesome, and so is your daughter. Thank you very much for that.

    • Erik –
      It sounds like you are speaking from a place of pain. I am sorry for that. But I am not your father. Don’t presume to know me. Consider I may have had a similar experience, but refused to give away my power.

      Please do not put words into my mouth – maybe you heard a taunt. Perhaps it was meant as an invitation, an extended hand? A door, being held open. I’m here to build people up, not tear people down.

    • Erik- Ya know, at one point in time I could have written your response to this so very easily. And I have to admit I felt something deep in my gut respond defensively to the first line you addressed in your post. However, I have to say I no longer feel that anyone took my awesome. I know now, that even at age 9, I had survival instinct. My abuser didnt take my awesome, I chose to hide it away, deep inside, in a locked box (a box I would be unable to locate for many years to come). I chose to protect my awesome. It took a very long time to realize it wasnt stolen and it wasnt gone. I chose to hide it, and I could choose to do the painful work– to wade through all that trauma, all that pain, all those memories– to find my way back to that tiny box where I hid my awesome in the first place. Where I hid it from the monster who didnt want to steal it at all- he wanted to destroy it and me in one fell swoop. Hiding my awesome allowed him to do neither. And years later, it allowed me to find my awesome and reclaim it (and myself).

  113. This is it.

    This is totally, completely it.

    Good job!!! And yes, that is SuperAwesomeFace. :))

  114. I LOVE this….and have three 5 year olds so can totally relate (even for boys!)…sadly I think my oldest daughter is losing her sense of awesome…shaken by an inconsiderate doctor…and the world around us! We need make sure our kids wake up with awesome, everyday!!!

    Rita Brennan Freay
    @Rita4kids
    ritabrennanfreay.com

    • Very cool! I think, especially in today’s era, we often forget to remind our boys of this too.(I have 4 girls and 1 boy) They’ve gotten a lot of slack these days…the media portrays them as bumbling idiots. EVERYONE was created with “awesome” and it’s about time we all remembered that. :)

      • April,
        You are right, we do need to share this message with boys just as much as we do girls.

      • Speaking of boys, are there any blogs like this for our little guys? I have two sons who get taunted for their lack of athletic skills while their academic and creative passions get ignored. Boys need “awesome” too!

        • Not sure about a blog (maybe Single Dad Laughing) but I remember reading while expecting my first son Wise Woman Herbal for the Childbearing years by Susun Weed and learning a lot about how to mother boys. One of the most important things I learned was to love them and touch them and encourage their tender parts … the world would take care of toughening them up and “making men” out of them soon enough. Now at 15 and 18, I could not be more proud of the men they’ve become. Simply amazing!

  115. This is brilliant. I still have my awesome, its power waivers slightly some days but it is definately still strong. I have 3 and 4 year old boys. I love how awesome they are and I will not allow them to loose it. Awesome.

  116. Impowering message, sad you thought you needed to swear to get it across. I’ll have to censor for my children.

  117. What a great thing for each and every one of us to remember. Yes, I lost my awesome for awhile, but I have found it again and it’s stronger than ever. I am the proud mother of two daughters (10 & 13) and I am raising them in the hopes that they never lose their awesome….so far, so good! Thank you!!!

  118. Go MOM!
    She’s a lucky girl to have such an awesome mother.

  119. Loved this post – so true! Thanks for sharing – and Amelia is totally awesome!

  120. Bullies took my “awesome” away being a tall, goofy girl in junior high. Even now, we struggle to be “outwardly awesome” in a corporate, hierarchical setting. No bright colors, no tattoos, no smiling, no being a woman…be a man in a man’s world. Thank you for posting this and encouraging us to “Do Me”:)

  121. Deborah Braun says:

    Great picture/attitude. Made me smile – remembering my early childhood before “she” stole my awesome – I “knew” she was full of shit, but “she” was my mother. “She’s suppose to know everything and tell me the truth. My twin sister wasn’t as lucky – she didn’t “know” “she” was full of shit. At 56, my twin sister is so damaged because “she” stole her awesome and my sister didn’t know she could fight back – and then her husband continued to steal her awesome. She now lives with me and my husband and probably will never find her awesome again; she doesn’t even believe it was ever there. So sad…………..

    Made me REALLY smile remembering my young nieces (and nephews) and my young students – What awesome times! Love it when they are sweet and still feel they are awesome! It shows in their faces.

  122. THANK YOU! for reminding me of why blogging is important. I am blessed to wake up awesome every day…at 41. Thanks for reminding me of how cool it is that my 7 year old son still wakes up awesome. No one has snatched his awesome and I hope they never do!…love that goofy, smart, feeling good boy just the way he is!

  123. OMG! I so needed to read this. Life is hard at times and we all struggle a bit. But damn if I am not going to wake up full of awesome tomorrow! Thank you!

  124. this is…..AWESOME-TASTICAL!!!!! <3

  125. A great man and friend sent me the link today, after reading it and cry, I had the greatest smile.
    Every girl, teen, and women of all ages show feel awesome. I felt it today and planning on feeling it every single day from now on.
    Thank you Alex!

  126. I believe that this is the only time T’ve really liked the overused word awesome. You’re right, they’re full of shit and they’re everywhere and they pass it on and it has to stop. With me.

  127. Heck yeah she’s full of awesome! I haven’t really lost my awesome, but I pretty much never wake up feeling all kinds of awesome — it takes a few cups of coffee before it kicks in. My one year old wakes me up with a smile quite often, and that is all kinds of awesome. This post is a great reminder to help her hole on to that as she grows.

  128. Oh how I have needed this lately. Nothing too horrible in life happened to me but my dad stole my awesome and I’m hoping he doesn’t steal it from my daughter also. All he ever seemed to talk about was my weight, my mother’s weight and now it is onto everybody else’s. It is so sad but I’m slowly getting to the point of standing up to him.

    • Maria – so happy to hear you are almost ready to stand up to him – now is the time – please for your sake and your daughter’s sake do not let him have this control. As i got older in life, I realized that i shouldn’t let people have power over me. Now granted that can be easier with friends than with your parents. What i would suggest is to sit him down in private and calmly tell him how you really feel. Tell him how hurtful it was to you to be judged for your weight and to hear him judge your mother. Tell him as much as you may love him, you will not sit by and let him judge others by something as superficial as weight. Family is suppose to build you up not tear you down. Then see how he reacts. He will likely get defensive but don’t back down – let the power inside of you give you courage. If he isn’t open to changing, then you have every right to demand that he never, ever discuss weight or superficial opinions in front of your daughter. I would say to him knowing how much he loves your child, you know he would never want to do anything to hurt her self esteem. Good luck!

  129. I love this too, but I have two boys 5 yo and 1 yo, two sensitive, fun-loving, full-of-life boys who aren’t afraid to be who they are right now… and I see that most of the comments are saying how relevant it is to girls to not lose their awesomeness, but it’s so relevant to boys as well, especially our sensitive, not-so-tough, doll-loving little boys. Really, this applies to all of us, boys, girls, men, women. There’s plenty of media out there directing little boys to be rough and tough and playing with dolls is not OK. We need to teach our children, not just girls, that they can’t be afraid to not fit in with the “norm” (whatever that is, really)… In fact, I’d like to think that my boys, and other children of the new generation, are apart of a new revolution to create a new “norm” where everyone will be accepted, loved and celebrated for who they are!!! So three cheers to keeping your awesomeness, boys and girls alike :)

    • Yes, yes, and yes! Boys AND girls need to be told they are awesome, no matter what they like to do. I have a son, now 14, and I have to admit even I’ve had a tough time not pushing him into things bacause it was what boys were “supposed” to do. Things like sports and cars and “tough, manly” activities. My son IS tough and manly (and has the girlfriends to prove it) but he prefers to draw, write stories and watch anime. He’s not physical and I do worry a bit because he carries more weight than most boys his age (he’s not FAT, just soft in the middle) but I try really hard not to pick at him. I worry that I am draining his awesome, but every so often he does or says something and just PROVES ME WRONG! And that makes MY awesome glow a bit brighter!

    • Right on, Jamie! I second the notion that boys and girls alike would benefit from acceptance and celebration of their own individual awesomeness. I think each gender faces its own hurdles as kids grow up to be adults, and I am hoping for an educational and social environment in which each child’s interests, skills and personality can be cherished.

  130. I had my awesome up until last year. I was bullied and I felt like this girl took away my awesome. I try to wake up feeling awesome but I just feel like there is always someone better than me:(

  131. Is that photo really showing that child at her best?

    • Regardless of whether or not her clothing style is the best (and Melissa, if you’re reading this, my mom went through months of smiling and laughing when I would wear [clean] underwear on my head–both of us, and my sister, too, were and are AWESOME), but she definitely seems like she couldn’t be happier or *feel* her best.

  132. How sad that I can’t ever remember feeling this way

  133. Melissa, This made my day, My 6 and 8 year old girls both wake up awesome every day. I have chosen to wake up awesome tomorrow! I think it would be great to sit and enjoy a glass of wine or cup of coffee with you and watch our awesome daughters be just that….thanks for sharing.
    ~Nici

  134. Two of my gifts to my daughter on her 14th birthday were “The Book of AWESOME!” and “The Book of Even More AWESOME!” – which I inscribed with reminders of how awesome she always was and always is and always will be. I need to figure out how to reclaim my awesome. Thanks for this – I’ll be sending this to my daughter, and reposting it.

  135. I wish I’d had an awesome growing up. My mother wouldn’t let me, though. She did her level best to keep me from getting out on my own. She didn’t beat me physically but she sure did a number on me emotionally.

  136. Beautiful piece and sentiment, and I appreciated a lot of the comments. Just wanted to add that I lived fairly awesomely (as you so poignantly described it) for thirty years, even despite a childhood involving sexual abuse and extremely narcissistic, emotionally abusive parents. For me, awesomeness was a coping strategy and a self-fulfilling prophecy… until the same abusers who raped me as a child decided to lie to the police and have me locked up in a mental hospital when I was 31 years old. I got out after three days because there was nothing wrong with me in the first place except a pathological family, but the experience put a huge blow in my self-confidence and ability to take joy in my awesomeness. Being involuntarily committed with no right to even hear the allegations against me, much less face my accusers, taught me that in some contexts awesomeness is pathologized and even criminalized. I’m totally with the other commenters on here who say that we all need to stop tearing down each others’ awesomeness, and nobody should ever be deprived of their liberty for being a confident and enthusiastic person. Thanks for your post, words to live by.

  137. Fantabulously awesome! Thx…. You rock!

  138. Fantastic blog… makes everyone smile either because we know/knew an awesome 5 year old or we remember being one. You are a talented writer!

  139. thank you, thank you, thank you! I am going to wake up awesome from this day forward!

  140. I’m so glad that I had a happy childhood and maintained most of my awesomeness, even if I don’t feel like it every day. It was so sad to read about kids who were mentally, physical, or sexual abused. I tell my kids how proud I am of them. I always tell them “I love you always and forever, no matter what.” Children need our unconditional love and support.

  141. I am a late-in-life 43 year old Mom of a 1 and half year old girl. She is awesome! I will give her an example daily of a Mom that gets her beauty from God. What he has given me back that was taken from me is immeasurable. Nothing and no one can seperate me from Him. What he sees in me…how I shine through his eyes…is all I need. The icing on the cake is how my husband still loves this sagging body that loves with my whole self. Those who are loved ARE awesome – beautiful – smart – witty – compassionate – blessed! I will teach my daughter to love. Giving love is awesome. Awesome isn’t something you are – it is something you do!

  142. Lol, awesome…also known as swagger. I love it! I loved reading this. It came at a great time. I’m in the process of getting my swagger/ awesome back and it feels amazing:)

  143. I don’t remember ever feeling that way. But I have 100 pix of my daughter just like the one you posted, and I love them all. I am fighting what feels like the fight of my life to keep my tween feeling awesome most days. To remind her, I leave her post-its detailing her acts of awesomeness, so on bad days, she can read them, all taped to her door, and let them override whatever outside influence has darkened her spirit. I am so glad there are sites like this, fighting the good fight for our girls.

  144. Amazing! Thank you for sharing this. Has put a huge smile on my face. She is awesome!!! L. Dawn

  145. I heard the best thing the other day. An elderly man gave his nephew some advice that really gave me pause for thought. He said, “Your kids know you love them. You don’t need to tell them that all the time. What you need to tell your kids is that you’re proud of them. When they know you’re proud of them, then they try their hardest not to let you down”. And when I thought of how many times in my life my parents said either phrase to me (I love you/I’m proud of you), and realized it was pretty much nil, I can see why I must’ve seemed like a disappointment to them.
    It’s taken most of my life to make myself proud of myself, and I’m still learning to love myself. But at least I can say these things to my daughter. And I can see why she hates to disappoint me. But, even if she thinks she did, I’m still proud of her. When you know someone’s in your corner, rooting for you, not only do you know they have your back, but you know the love’s all part of the same package.

    • I believe that children should be taught to be proud of themselves. Parents can say things like “I see you worked hard on that, you should be proud of yourself.” or such. Otherwise, they will always be gauging their actions on whether their parents are proud of them or not. I do understand what you are saying about never receiving a word of encouragement as a child – I think parents of that generation were taught not to baby their children to make them strong. no love was ever spoken in our house, it was assumed in the daily meals and clean clothes. Good actions were rewarded with, “well, good thing you didn’t mess up this time”. It was different. Now, we are free to repeat what we liked from our childhood and not do what we didn’t like.

    • Thank you!! I really need to remember this. So simple and so true!

    • Krystal, that was so beautifully said, thank you.

      Amelia is freakin awesome, I LOVE that picture and I wish I could wake up feeling like that everyday!

    • Krystal, thank you so much for sharing that wisdom! I must share it too.

    • I don’t know that “proud” is the most important thing to communicate. I’ve observed something over the years. I believe I got unconditional approval: I never got the message that there was something I had to do or be (“straight As”, “be a doctor”) to earn basic acceptance as a human being. That is distinct from a hope my parents might have had about something or a disappointment they might have about a particular behavior.

      This has proven to be a curse as well as a blessing! I simply do not care at an emotional level whether strangers – like bosses – approve of me. So the usual shame-based reward and punishment systems of the workplace just don’t work on me at all.

  146. Heidi Taylor says:

    Oh yeah, I got my awesome on this morning, now, Girlz! This is great. Thanks.

  147. You have always had “the awesome” more than anyone I’ve ever known!

  148. John Magnuson says:

    My 3 and a half year old wakes up in much the same way. She is cute as a bug (what a weird phrase right?) but her mom, myself, and my folks all try to remember to praise her for how smart she is and her amazing memory!

    Like I say, cute is nice, but smarts are forever!

    • Bugs are cute! My (soon-to-be-16-year-old) daughter loves ‘em!

      Smart > sexy, and day of the week.

    • Every time I see a child (I don’t have my own yet thank goodness) of a friend or a family member I always try to compliment them on how smart or funny or something other than cute/pretty/handsome they are because I feel like they get lots of compliments about how cute or adorable or w/e they are but less so about the inside things that truly matter

  149. School stole my awesome.I remember feeling awesome and when I started school, I remember that being taken from me. I started feeling like I wasn’t good at anything, I became very shy, when once upon a time I would perform for my family and singing was my favourite thing in the world, my mother said I suddenly stopped singing. (I retreated to my room and sang under my bed). All the love I received at home from my mother, could not combat the lack of validation I received throughout the week. I’m now 28, mother of three (two awesome girls) and I am getting my awesome back and I am determined to keep my kids feeling awesome. I’m homeschooling my kids and I feel like this is my way of helping them retain there awesomeness because I have learned iy is the most precious thing in the world. Thank you for your blog.

  150. What an inspiring piece! Had to feature it on my blog along with your AWESOME website! Thanks!

  151. Kate Arnold says:

    I am a cancer survivor and realized as I read your blog that cancer stole my awesome. Made me so mad. How could I let it. Working on getting that awesome back. I beat cancer for goodness sake! I AM awesome. Thank you for turning on that light bulb.

  152. I LOVE THIS! That is my little girl too. She (as well as I) thinks she’s the smartest, most talented, awesomest thing ever put on Earth. And I can’t say in a self centered way because she is the sweetest little thing I’ve ever met (even got an award for it at school). But I live in fear that someone will take that away from her. I sit and watch tv with her and if something pops up that shows a girl a little too scantily clad or too made up I tell her that that’s not normal and you don’t ever have to look like that to have someone like you. Thank you for this post. I want to print it and paste it up on my wall so I can see it all the time.

  153. Great post! Finally got my “awesome” back in the past few years, it’s been a long time coming. :) Unfortunately little girls aren’t likely to ever think their parents are full of it – even to think so would be disloyal, “mean”, would be the opposite of what good little girls do. So if the natural authority figures in their lives let them down… it takes a lot of work later to restore that. I think back to the snowball effect of not feeling awesome as a kid… fewer smiles to classmates, lonelier lunchtimes, more nights home alone as a teenager… and how life would’ve been different now, today, with a different beginning. Not to wallow, but just to know what’s been lost… because that’s the only way to then go about getting it back! And getting it back is hard, hard work… but oh, so worth it!

    Thanks for the affirmation! :D

    Lisa

  154. This is so great! I have 2 little girls of my own and it’s so very important to me that they stay little girls for as long as possible. I remember my mom telling me to “don’t rush it – don’t wish to grow up so fast”. I can see why. Everytime we have a silly dance party or put on funny hats, and I see them loving on themselves in the mirror or to each other – it makes my heart explode. I want them to feel like this every day of their lives. Can’t wait to share this with my sister!

  155. I work with a girls youth organization for girls ages 11-21. I am going to share this with my girls at our next meeting. Our statewide service project is H.O.P.E. (Helping Other People Eat) which is an organization that helps fight and helps educate people about eating disorders so this is perfect. Thanks for sharing!

  156. So much awesomeness! Thanks for posting!

  157. yes and yes and yes.

    We have a small Chica who is 7 and I try everyday to remind her how perfect her body is, how strong her legs are, how beautiful she is inside and out. She stares at herself all the time in the mirror and thinks and will tell you she is beautiful. She is crazy, like the class clown with barbie blond hair and big blue eyes. She is also awesome missing her two front teeth.

    She can outrun her brother who is ten while in flipflops. She is a math genius. She has the most amazing handwriting ever and taught her self cursive writing. She is learning to read music and plan piano. She sings everything and wears costumes out in public all the time.

    She is crazy beautiful and smart and funny and loving and I will consider myself successful if in life if she can still think of herself the way she does now when she becomes a teenager. this is a great post.

    thanks. xxxxxx

  158. My little girl is always awesome!

  159. Today, I AM feeling awesome. Thanks!

  160. My parents always let me know how proud they were of me and told me that no matter what I decided to do as an adult – whether it be a garbage collector or a doctor – that I should do what made me happy. I vividly remember my dad praising me for my excellent hand-eye coordination when I was learning how to golf and my mom complimenting me on my musical ability. Oh, they would tell me I was pretty and all that, too, but I remember the other things the most. I can’t say I’m feeling very full of awesome at this point in my life, but I’m working real hard at getting it back.

    Viva la Awesome!!! :-)

  161. Love this, thanks for posting. Wanted to remind folks that telling your kids that they are smart is not the same thing as helping them with their awesome. Read this: it will change your outlook on parenting. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=the-secret-to-raising-smart-kids
    Don’t feel bad, the words “you’re so smart” come out of my mouth all the time. We can’t help it. But just please remember to focus on effort not innate ability, because if our kids think their ability is innate, the first time they hit a big challenge, they will figure that maybe they’re not so “smart” after all and stop taking on challenges. And that is not awesome.

  162. This is easily the best internet post I’ve ever read and I will be forever grateful for this!! It’s on my refrigerator and I am going to go be Awesome today :-). Much gratitude…………

  163. Donna Triolo says:

    She is my daughter’s bookend!!!!!

  164. I call my almost 4 y/o daughter “Beautiful” as one of her many nicknames, and started to worry that she would think that was all I saw her as, or that beauty was the most important thing about her. As I thought about this, I realized that when the thought “Oh, she’s so beautiful” crosses my mind, I am typically looking at her sometimes hilarious clothing combos, her strong legs and cute chubby butt, her wildly messy curly hair, and the smears of dirt that cover her face and hands and arms and legs, her crazy grin when her baby brother hugs her, her loud and lusty singing of songs both learned and made up. Beautiful in regards to my daughter means, to me, that every bit of her is beautiful. That, inside and out, I am amazed at what a wonder she is. So, I will continue to use “Beautiful” as a nickname, as well as telling her she’s smart and funny and silly and lovey and all the other great aspects of her personality. But, I will make sure as she gets older and can understand more that I tell her all that the word “beauty” encompasses.

  165. Many great points and comments and I would submit that the feeling of self-acceptance is very (if not most) important for times when you don’t feel ‘awesome’. It’s OK to not be awesome all the time because nobody is, that I’ve ever come across. It’s when you accept the times when you’re NOT awesome that you retain the ability to be awesome again.

    Awesome, just like Crappy or Tired or Mad or Melancholy, is one of the many stations we come across at various times in our lives, but the key is accepting them all as part of our being.

    But “Yes”, to NOT let anybody impose on you something you’re not just because it suits them, seems the very spirit of awesome.

  166. Love! Fantastic post!

  167. Lost the awesome around 15. It was fun to get it back at 30! . . . Now I try to tell young people how awesome they are as often as possible. It’s amazing to me how many of them really don’t know it. Here’s to the possibility of a generation that can wake up full of awesome every day of their lives!

  168. Thanks for sharing this today. Its perfect!

  169. Wow, I love this… if only we felt this way when we get older. Me not so much anymore. Yes, please tell you child, you love them, proud of them and keep up the great work.

  170. OMGOSH! This post was just Awesome!! :) Thanks for giving me something to share with my two teenage girls. Life is full of ups and downs and twists that make your toenails curl. But the truth is, it really is this simple. Believe in yourself!

  171. Lisette Dunne says:

    How wonderful. What great thoughts, it left me with a smile for memories of the 5 year old inside me, and a tear because sometimes she is not.

  172. Great reminder! I’m fortunate to think that I’m awesome :) but some days I forget. So, I vow to wake up awesome for the days to come! I read somewhere else that you should try to get a good laughter in – if possible every morning – makes for a much better day! Tickle your kids, find humor in the things that happen throughout the day. And definitely let your kids know when you’re proud of them (and specify why – that way it’s not just mom saying it). Have a GREAT weekend, everyone!

  173. love this!

  174. i LOVE this! it brought me to tears and it made me laugh.

    i am taking my awesome back!

    thank you… i needed this today.

  175. I can tell you exactly who stole my “awesome,” but that would be impolite. What a great article! I think that as we tell our children and/or the young people in our lives that we are proud of them, we should be doing the same to ourselves. Just because we’re not as confident as our 5 year old selves used to be doesn’t mean that it’s too late to get that back. So I challenge you all to reclaim your awesomeness-after all, it IS Friday!

  176. Thank you SO much for sharing your wonderful thoughts!

  177. That is the best read I have had in a long time! I will have to read it daily to remind myself of how AWESOME I am!

  178. What are you talking about? I never lost mine. I am 31 and feel exactly this way, every day.

    • Glad you never lost yours! Many others will need this to get theirs back, or to realize that little girls need adults to not steal theirs… so it’s meaningful and helpful. I encourage you to share awesomeness with others who need a boost of it, because they are out there.

  179. Love, love, love it! It’s so cool how my 2-year old daughter handles a mirror…she doesn’t shy away or look for flaws…she sticks out her tongue…makes a face…or just smiles so super big because she, too, knows she’s awesome. Thanks for the reminder!!!

  180. Kathy Anderson says:

    Loved it!! She IS the definition of AWESOME!

  181. I am showing this to my 9 year old who had her awesome squashed yesterday by a teacher! She is awesome every day!

  182. From a dad whose 14 year old daughter is full of awesomeness! Love this post!

  183. And don’t stop being awesome to your kids and for your kids, even when they enter the dark moody, gloomy teen years. Awesome matters even more then!

  184. I needed this today. Thank you so very much. :)

  185. Love this! We all have that awesome in us and yes we do need to remember and not let others affect us later in life! Thanks for sharing this! Good to remember and strive for again!:)

  186. YES, YES, AND YES!

  187. Nothing made me more confident then being a mother to my daughter (and my son). From the moment my little ones entered my life I HAD to be awesome, for them and for me!!

  188. So… why is this little tidbit of wisdom aimed purely at girls?

    • Adam –
      If you looked around a tish you would have figured out that this blog, named Redefine Girly, and the company, Pigtail Pals – Redefine Girly, are both dedicated to girls and empowering them to fight the narrow gender limitations and sexualization aimed at them from the media and marketplace.

  189. Great post! She is super awesome!

    I make it a point of telling my daughter (6) how smart she is, and how cool I think her ideas are, and how she can be really proud of herself for the things she does and that I am proud of her too.

    It is wonderful to see how it affects a little girl (and boy) when they are told they can and should feel good about themselves! And it is wonderful to see them pass on that sort of praise to their siblings, toys and also back to you.

  190. No, I never was. There was never a time that I remember when I did not think myself worthless and unlovable. My parents made sure of that.

    This little girl is LUCKY, to feel that way and to have parents who encourage her.

    • me, too. i cannot remember ever feeling like that.

    • Sparrow, Sorry u had a bad childhood. but its time to let it go, u living a productive,happy, friendship and love filled adult life is the biggest revenge you could have over your parents. My grandmother always told me that God doesan’t make junk, and she was a smart lady. As far as your parent’s opinion, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and sometimes they spooe shit!! (also from my grandmother, told u she was smart!!) So, chin up and start living your own life!!!

      • nicely said!!

      • It is a lot easier said than done. Abusive or neglectful parents can do a lot of damage to an individual that will severely impact their health and well-being. It is easy to say you are an adult now and time to move on, live for now, however there is a lot involved in being able to live for now.

        Someone may need some form of therapy or the help of other health professionals which isn’t often free. If you have grown up in a negative environment and perhaps haven’t built the resilience to get ahead in life you may be stuck in a low paying job, if you have a job at all. You may not be able to afford the help you need, a self help book or motivating speech isn’t always able to help people “find their awesome” and get back on track. There are a number of factors that are interrelated and compound the issue of low self esteem, despair and other signs of ill-health.

        Itt isn’t always so easy to put your chin up, sometimes that can take years. Those that are lucky to have had a good upbringing, or have had at least one positive role model that were able to help them build resilience and some core values to help build esteem are indeed very lucky. They make a lot of difference.

    • That should all change today!

      You are your destiny! You are what you eat! You are the one person you can count on – that in of itself makes you awesome.

      Remember the saying – God don’t make junk. Well, there you have it.

      Go be awesome!

    • Tammy Wilson says:

      guess what? you’re an adult now.
      do you know who is responsible for your happiness now? you are.
      do you know who can or can’t make you feel awesome? you do.
      do you know who gave someone else permission to make you feel like crap? you did.
      do you know the only person who can change how you feel? Yup, once again. You.

      quit feeling sorry for yourself and blaming others and do whatever it takes for YOU to feel awesome again. there’s no excuse other than the ones YOU make.

      • ^^ Rock on baby! It is all about how you live today. The best thing Kele and Sparrow can do is help some little girls feel they’re awesome, it will help heal you both.

        • Jenn has an AWESOME idea!

          Go to your local United Way/Church/YMCA/Mosque/Synagogue/Elementary School/Big Brothers&Big Sisters and ask the person in charge about a Mentoring program. The best way to heal yourself is to help heal someone else!

      • This is one time it really is all about YOU!!
        Give no one and nothing power, but yourself

      • @Tammy:
        Perhaps you started to say something encouraging, but it ended up being insensitive & even mean. I don’t think Sparrow said she felt sorry for herself. She& others are only stating the fact that is true for many — “No, I don’t remember that. I’m starting from scratch.”

        Critical comments tossed off by you suggesinh it was my fault as an infant & young child for being hurt by parents makes it a little tougher. Criticism for sharing my unpleasant memories makes it a little tougher. But hey! At least I gave you a chance to feel superior today.

    • Dear Sparrow,

      To hell with your parents! You rock!
      My parents weren’t so hot either and I am in the process of getting it back!
      Join the Awesome group, it’s more fun!

      Christine

    • I am very sorry to hear that :( I don’t know who you are but I think you are awesome :) because I believe everyone is awesome. I hope someday someone will show you how awesome you are and you will believe them

    • I wish you light and love now and forever. Everyone should know that they are important and remember you never touch someone so lightly that you don’t leave a mark. <3

    • Now that just makes me want to cry. But you know what, you are SUPER AWESOME because even when someone knocks you down, you get back up. Many parents don’t know any better, they think it’s their job to critize. Probably they weren’t able to feel full of AWESOME themselves. So break the cycle. Smile and share your awesomenous. But be careful, it is contagious!

    • Dear Sparrow,
      You can Parent your self now. If you are a spiritual person, You can have a loving Father in you life.
      My growing up was not a walk in the park, i had those feelins also. But all that has held me back. And that has to change, You are wonderfully made,and I’m sure you could attain any goal you set.
      God is keeping me goin today..and there are more and more days i feel Totally awesome.
      If your parents made you feel this way, they were very wrong.And had nothing to do with you. What i did was got on my knees and forgave, I don’t miss the person, or even love them,…the thing is it done with, in the past. And the child in you is Free to Grow and Blossom. Will keep you in my Prayers

    • I hear that…although I knew my dad loved me…not so much my mom. I could never do anything right. I raised my daughter to know she can do and be anything. She is amazing. Think what the world would be like if we all were raised to believe we had worth!

      • my situation was the total opposite. My mom loved me unconditionally and while I knew my father loved me he had a poor way of showing it. He was always putting me down (in hopes that I would do better) that was his father’s way of raising a kid (if you put your child down they will work extra hard to win your approval) that may have worked for him but it never worked for me and years later in the few months I had left with him after my mom passed (he died 6 months later) he admitted he was wrong and beg for my forgiveness and I gave it to him but he died before we could fully reconcile but I at least know that he loved me and was proud of the woman that I had become

    • Sparrow,

      I’m with you on that. Parents can program you to have no dignity and self-worth. It happened to me too. You are not alone on that.

      I am a 53 year old woman now. It took me until about 40 years of age to “grow up” and grow out of the “poor me” stage. I hated being envious of everyone.

      I now love who I am, love my slightly overweight body (well, maybe not so much that!) I love my smile, my sense of humor, and sense of right and wrong along with all the shades of gray in between. It took a lot of hard work on my part. I still struggle with self-esteem issues from time to time but I am winning the battle and I am happy. Mostly, I envy no one. There are many that envy me.

  191. Jessica Montgomerie says:

    Thank you for this!

  192. Thanks for this! We all need reminded that we are awesome!

  193. Yay this was wonderful and inspiring! I even like a lot of the stories from the comments! But it makes me sad to hear the people talk about their abuse. Do you notice that only victims of abuse are talking about not having awesome? This is a silly idea to me, not having awesome. I bet lots of people had unhappy childhoods for reasons other than abuse. But the abused here seem to hold on to their “non awesome” like it WAS their awesome.

    Stop clinging to your moments of de-awesome, they are not even you. Your awesome isn’t something you can even get taken away, it’s really always there. You are the one hiding it from yourself, and I know you know it. I don’t know how to help you bring it out, but I do know it’s up to you, you have to make it or it’ll just sit there squashed and hidden.

    Easy to say on a day where I’m feeling full of awesome, but maybe you will get a little fuel to start the awesome engine again!!

    • Tammy Wilson says:

      I am someone who was abused… but i am not a victim. I am a survivor. An awesome survivor. There’s a difference.

    • Gypsy Chaos says:

      Really? A person does not have to be abused in order to lose her awesomeness. Or are you redefining abuse such that anything that negatively affects someone’s awesomeness must be abuse??

      Consider a girl raised by parents who are using the same techniques that were used on them. The parents believe they turned out ok — responsible adults, gainfully employed, home, etc. Within their environment, they don’t encounter different methods of raising children.

      Their methods downplay any accomplishments by girls or women and lavish praise on every accomplishment by a boy or man. That’s a common reality. It’s also a method that effectively squashes the girls’ or women’s awesome.

      Are the daughters abused?

      • I agree. There is an absolute divide that happens early in many households. Boys are praised, heck trained for strength, intelligence, honor and pride while at the same time what are girls praised for? Being pretty, mild, sweet and helpful.

        That dichotomy carries right through to adulthood. I work for a very large corporation and that “he’s a real go getter” when he says it vs. “what a BITCH” when she says the exact same thing is still very much alive today.

        The awesome doesn’t have to be literally beaten out of us – sadly it happens to so many of us in very subtle ways over a lifetime that suddenly we’re nearly 42 years old, on the verge of a divorce and blinking our eyes wondering what the hell happened to that hysterical, irreverant, free spirit? I know that can’t just be my experience…

        This was a great reminder to reclaim it!

        And I agree … to those that say they never had it or haven’t seen it in a long while? Put on your big girl panties & claim what’s rightfully yours!!

      • I would say it is a form of emotional abuse or emotional neglect. Abuse doesn’t have to be deliberate or physical and neglect is often very unintentional.

  194. Best. Blog. Post. EVER!

  195. Terrific content – thanks Melissa! Though I’m the mother of a boy, I totally agree and want to add one thing.

    MOMs also must stop judging other MOMs — as ‘not this’ or ‘too that’ or ‘we just don’t see eye to eye and we therefore clash.’

    Ladies, we’re powerful and awesome beyond words, and every time we cut someone down, regardless of their age or gender, we diminish our own power. WE ROCK so let’s dance together rather than duke it out behind each other’s backs. LOVE <3 Sara

  196. We need to redefine “all-boy,” too. Every day, I see parents encouraging/allowing their sons to be loud, violent and disrespectful of others. They paint their baby boys’ rooms blue, and cover them in sports themes, expect them to become athletes and discourage their creativity and empathy. Sex-role stereotyping goes both ways. Girly is not about being a Princess, and All-Boy is not about being King of the World.

    • I totally could have written this. My son is standing out in the crowd because he is not loud, violent or disrespectful, and the other boys don’t like him much because of it. He is a sweet, funny, smart, sensitive nine year old boy who I am afraid for because the prevailing attitude is that the other boys “don’t get him” and therefore he should be exposed to more social activities so he can learn how to allow them to “get him.” In other words, he needs to change to be more like them.

  197. I grew up being told by my mother I was overweight and not pretty, but at least I was intelligent. So intelligent that I there was no doubt I would attend college, find a career and able able to support myself.
    Mirrors were my enemy until I was 50 years old. By that time I had been married 22 years and had 2 children. I looked at myself for a very long time and saw a face with beautiful round brown eyes, a rose bud mouth and small, perfect nose. Thick dark shiny hair about which I had received numerous compliments. I asked my husband to look in the mirror with me and to truthfully tell me what he saw. He told me, “The most beautiful of all the sisters in your family. I’m proud to say I married the best looking of the bunch.” I have five sisters!
    Now, I look in the mirror every day and see a mature beautiful woman who has aged gracefully. I was never a princess, but now I am the queen! I am the Queen, a wise Latina! Empower your daughters with positive words. No one is perfect, but we all have something special. Make that something special grow from birth not from age 50!

  198. My wife and I have an 8 month old foster daughter who will soon become OUR daughter. She is still in the process of figuring out how to walk and talk but when she’s ready, she will be awesome. Thank you for this post. I’m really looking forward to the future.

  199. Thank you for reminding me that it doesn’t matter what I have been told. I am awesome just the way I am & nobody has the power to take that from me. You have no idea how much I needed this today!!

  200. Dolores Reddikcs-Luckett says:

    I LOVE THE MESSAGE! I joined to help stay focused & reconnect to the “little 5 year girl” in me @ 48. Discovering that I’m constantly being challenged by friends and family who try to take that awesomeness away! Today and always… I’m focused on claiming it and taking it back! Thanks for the amazing message you are communicating! I AM HERE AND I AM AWESOME! “…If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” — Mother Teresa..

    • I love this. I wish I could believe I were awesome.

      • Elizabeth, try this: write down all the positive things you know about yourself and any compliments you have ever received. Add in anything good that you’ve done for others. Put anything written that says good things about you in one file and label it “Elizabeth’s Awesome”… if you’ve got artwork or a piece of writing you’ve done and are proud of, put a copy of that in the file, too. Keep the list with you at all times. Look at the list or the file whenever you feel you aren’t awesome.

        Sometimes you just have to remind yourself.

  201. Being a mom to 2 girls, and a woman that has struggled with getting her awesomeness back! I love this post! Thanks for posting this! Brightened up my day just a little bit more today :) Ok well a whole lot more!

  202. This is so true! I refer to it as my “Diva,” but it’s all one and the same. We HAVE it, we ARE it, we DESERVE it, we CLAIM and OWN it. Go be awesome today.

  203. Kristina B says:

    Today is my birthday! I am 57 and still wake up full of awesome! The older I get the more awesome I become. And it is due to having friends and family who continually poked me with their awesome sticks!

  204. I grew up with strong messages from my mother telling me I was not pretty, not talented, not creative and that my value was only in how much work I could get done and, later, also, how good my grades could be.

    While the flip side of this (constantly being told your value is only in your beauty), would be just as damaging, I would like to encourage parents to think of the affects of their words on their children throughout their lives. The messages of my mother were only countered by my father, who worked long hours, so his messages weren’t as frequent as the many negative messages from my mother.

    I did grow up knowing how to work hard, how to get work done, organize, plan and accomplish much both academically and at work/home, thanks to my mother. But, I had little self-esteem, except in work situations. When others complimented my appearance or talent, initially, I was stunned and didn’t believe them. I had to learn to like myself.

    With four children, I’ve put much effort into giving them all the message that they are awesome in every way possible. These kinds of messages go much further and lead to more capable, well-adjusted adults, who are more likely to choose mates who also value them.

    PLEASE parents, think about what you say to your children and how you treat them. You can raise a child with discipline and not crush the child. It is important to appreciate all aspects of your child, not just their beauty or sports prowess or brains. Encourage their awesomeness in however many forms it may present itself.

  205. A friend just sent a link to your blog, which is full of AWESOME! This is exactly how I’m trying to raise my daughter who I hope and pray will always know how incredibly awesome she is. A great book for all those awesome girls out there is Joan Steffend’s …AND SHE SPARKLED. My awesome aunt/second mom gave it to my daughter to help her to remember that she sparkles each and every day. Thanks so much for an inspiring message!

  206. Thank you for this, I both smile and cry when I read this. I endeavor to wake up full of awesome every morning from now on, and help my daughter not lose her awesome.

  207. Awesome post! And I wanted to thank Tami also – you’re right! I need to stop “clinging to your moments of de-awesome.” I have a wonderful man, 2 incredibly loving sons (redefining manly), and am working on getting “ME” back after several years of emotional abuse from people in my life (and MYSELF). After a while, you get so used to being abused, you not only believe it, but when you start feeling awesome, you abuse yourself to squash it.

    Here’s to the AWESOME!

  208. Thank you.

    This post was brought to my attention at just the right moment.
    I needed to be reminded that by damn I am still awesome no matter whether or not my socks match or my views are the same as others.

    Sometimes we have to be reminded that we’re awesome…

    So thank you for being Awesome. :)

  209. Rock on, Amelia!

  210. Outstanding! As a dad of two awesome little girls, I have a mission to raise two strong, confident women. I think it’s a balance of reinforcing what characteristics are important. As a dad, I’m going to tell my girls that they’re beautiful. Mainly, because I believe they are and it’s hard not to tell them that. However, it needs a healthy balance of other compliments such as smart, strong, reliable, friendly, etc…

    I wrote a post on my blog once titled I Don’t Need a Prom Queen – http://www.dadtastic.com/2011/01/12/i-dont-need-a-prom-queen/

    Great post. Thanks for your thoughts!

  211. Love this web site! I was not awesome when I was younger due to family dysfunction, however, I am learning to be awesome now. It is never too late to be awesome – I am a 58 year old breast cancer survivor who is learning to embrace it!

    And I have finally found the voice to say ‘Bullshit’ to anyone who attempts to undermine it, diminish it or take it away!!

  212. No, because I never thought that about myself. Those messages have never come to me from the outside, it’s all the internal voice constantly reminding me that I’m worthless and will never be good enough.

    • That is satan’s voice! Talk to God and listen for His voice! You are not worthless, you are loved by the God that created you. Never ever forget that!

    • Me too. Consider depression as a possible cause. Years of work have taught me that yes, the messages come from inside me, not outside. Cancer also comes from inside us but it isn’t us. I’ve also learned that active abuse is not the only thing that can take your awesome away: passive lack of positive interaction can do it too. A depressed mother, a father who doesn’t connect. And all of that can happen so early you won’t even remember it. Coming from inside of you doesn’t mean it’s true! Look for help if you haven’t already. Sometimes God’s help comes through other people who can help you. Trust me, God, however you conceive that, knows that you are awesome!

  213. This rocks! I love this.

  214. Now THIS IS MEANINGFUL. Thank you many times over for writing this! I know many people including myself who needed to hear this and will be sharing it. Respect. :-)

  215. I am a mom of three boys and I LOVE this. I think it is true for every HUMAN. If we could all be empowered and not worn down, all appreciate our gifts so we can share them, that would be awesome.

  216. I was abused, but I had a very strong Gramma who helped keep them at bay. I lost my awesome for years, avoided mirrors, and now I realize, after 10 years of sexual and horrid physical abuse, that it was wrong of them-and they did not care. I was told my Gramma saved me. What ruins us is the secrets we must keep, the confusion we have that follows us into adulthood. My Gramma was like John Wayne, and my Grandbaby is in trouble. I told my daughter I saw pictures of her on the computer, dirty ones, and I have not been allowed to see my Grandbabies for 16 mos. So the baby is 4 going on 15, and I called the sheriff, the police, the D.A., and the Governor of Wyoming, and nothing was done. My daughters husband would not let me near the Computer to get proof. I will never give up, they are driving w/o car insurance and he has no license for 3 years-the police do not care. They can’t pull him over for nothing. I even have to password to his account, there has to be a way-I will never give up. Never.

    • If your grandbaby is being abused you need to call the police every hour of every
      day until they do something about it!!!

    • Try contacting a lawyer and filing a civil suit regarding the issue. If you can get a court order for the information, they CAN’T stop you. The only question is whether it will still be there.

  217. The creeps who were “full of shit” in *my* world were my schoolmates. It caused me YEARS of constant cognitive dissonance: I couldn’t understand why so many of them were all saying the same horrible things that I couldn’t see. I was confused & my parents couldn’t give me any decent advice on how to deal with it (Of course, just having them tell me “They’re idiots!” would have helped, but I digress). So I suffered. Some people might even say I became bitter. I know I’m a lot bitchier than I would have been had I had decent schoolmates, instead of just a small number of close friends in a shark pool. But I now have a burningly Nietzschean attitude about it all: it has not only made me LOADS stronger, it has saved my daughter untold misery as I stood at her back through every possible bullying incident. And if/when my son comes under some jerk’s radar? Same for him! I am actually GRATEFUL to all those snotty little bastards (but they should all still drop dead (-: )

  218. THIS! I want my little girl to always feel like this. Such an awesome post. You say exactly what my thoughts are.

  219. i never had an awesome as a kid… but I am making damn sure my kids know they have it and keep it damn it. In turn It’s helping me find my awesome

  220. If you wake up full of awesome as a woman, society thinks you’re arrogant. For men, you’re confident. F-society, for sure. But I wish it wasn’t so.

  221. I remember feeling just this way up until age 9. I thought I was all that. I felt goo-hood on the inside about myself. 1976 and lovin’ my hip huggers and butterfly shirts. Growing up on the beach and my hair streaked with blonde, I feel hippie cool. UNTIL a boy looked at me from across the 4th grade lunch table and said, You know, you might not always be ugly.

    CRUSH! of my spirit. I would recapture it here and there when my sine wave of self-image was up, but never like the euphoric feeling of young, innocent belief in myself.

    Thanks for the adorable photo and encouraging words.. they remind me I am still that awesome, for now I am old (and wise) enough to believe it. Again.

  222. This SO describes my daughter! She’s been awesome since she began “talking” to someone holding her by bumping herself against them and saying, “Uh!” and then smiling!

    I want her to be herself ALWAYS! I want her to be self-expressive ALWAYS! I want her to be her HAPPY SELF ALWAYS!

    “Hamster” – you’re my BEST daughter in the whole wide world! No, Universe! And I love you!

    Mom

  223. As for the photo, I plan on printing it out and adding Amelia to my fridge! What a great spirit :))

  224. This is perfection.
    It served as such a good reminder for me this morning.
    When my kids first woke me up with all of their loud wildness, instead of being grumpy (though I am quite sleep deprived and was still rather groggy), I was grateful that they’re SO full of awesome!
    All I could think was, “look at all her awesome. she thinks she is AWEsome. That’s awesomeness personified!”
    Thank you, thank you, thank you for giving me the opportunity and gentle reminder to truly enjoy each and every moment with them. :)

  225. Amazing post, and so true! This was very very moving!

  226. Rock on Amelia!!! I may not have had the fan base with my parents that you have now, but guess what? Just like so many awesome ladies have said already, it’s not who made you, it’s what you make of what’s left. I have dreams of my own & I am sooooo blessed to have a wonderful husband who supports & encourages those dreams. He actually reminds me of hose dreams when I at times, may appear to forget. But I never do…forget my dreams, that is. We all have them. Dreams. The trick is to never let go of them. Hold on tight to whatever your dream may be & carry it with you wherever you go. There will come a time for you to sit down & make your dream…a reality. So hold on tight til it’s time to… let go. God bless us all in our awesome ways of awesomeness. : ]

  227. Thank you for this post! My daughter is just that: 5 y.o. and waking up every day full of joy and she thinks she’s awesome and beautiful and everything. I hope she’ll stay this way – and I’ll fight for it – forever.

  228. I love this post! We should all wake up feeling awesome, at least once in our life.

  229. Looks like I’m the only guy to reply? Sad. I have three daughters, 20, 17 and 13. We have pictures of every one of them as “awesome” as Amelia above! They all knew it then, they should all know it and feel it today! I love you guys too much! You’re all AWESOME! Thanks for sharing your very sweet thoughts. Now everyone get out there and MAKE your own awesome!

  230. Amelia made MY day!

  231. The great thing about being an ADULT is that you get to decide for yourself what AWESOME is!

  232. Good morning, Amelia!! And thank you for bringing happy tears to my eyes this morning. This 43 yr old is getting back in touch with her awesomeness she is very happy to say :-) Namaste, little one, you ARE awesomeness!!

  233. I just turned 60! Last year, at 59, I wasn’t feeling awesome. I decided to take back my health, ans started to ‘clean eat’, low glycemic, and walk/exercise. I normalized my blood sugar levels and became awesome again!
    I’ve had many awesome years in my lifetime. Feeling love from my family at a very young age, being able to do some things really well (skiing, field hockey, art, write, maybe a few more), being in love and having an amazing husband, having my babies and blending my family. Helping someone when I can. Being a friend. Of course having grand children is just the frosting on the I Am Awesome Cake!
    I’ve also had a few I Am Unawesome years. My body changed at age 9. I learned to hate my body. The constant assessment of our physical bodies is THE most damaging social/cultural demand young girls have to deal with. It starts young. Age 4 or 5. Something must be done about this.
    Thanks so much for your web site. I love it!!

  234. How funny…I heard the phase “I’m made of awesome” in a book and have been using it ever since. I plan to use it with my Girl Scouts this year too!
    I hid my awesome for a long time, but it’s in full force now, every single day!

  235. @Tammy Wilson:

    Judgemental much?

  236. To all of you who were robbed of this, take it back! It’s just so not too late.

  237. When my daughter learned to ride a bike she began to shout “I’m awesome!” Instead of sharing in the joy of that momment all I could do was wish I could capture all this self esteem and save it for later when some stupid boy robs her of it.
    This was a great post. We need to protect our awesome.
    :0)

  238. Loved this. Thanks for making my day.

  239. I grabbed your button for my “space”. Thank you for this site!

    I have four daughters and one niece who were raised Awesome, with unconditional love.

    My brother and sister and I were abused. My paternal unit was responsible for that. My mother was awesome; even under his thumb. She is still my role model for awesome.

  240. Joyce Orner says:

    It’s awesome that I can get out of bed in the morning to greet another beautiful day created by an awesome GOD.

  241. Hi!
    What a great read first thing in the morning! Thanks for that. Here are a few sites I use when I am teaching advertising or health. There is another one but probably not that great for pigtail awesomeness!

    http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=dove+campaign+for+real+beauty+commercial&aq=2&oq=dove+cam

  242. What a great post, and a great reminder to love ourselves, always, and not let the negativity in others bring you down. Some days it is difficult to do that, but it’s so worth it!

  243. Thanks for this!I read it out loud to my amazing 21 year old daughter ….may we never give away our pride, our laughter, our courage, our integrity, our honesty, our hope and our awesome!

  244. I will wake up feeling awesome every day after reading this!!! Doing my best to give my little lady everything she needs to wake up full of awesome everyday!!! Thank you for posting this. Reposting at http://meandthekids.net/!!!

  245. My 12 year old daughter asked for a shirt that says “I’m amazing!” I hope she always feels that way!

  246. Afterthought says:

    I never used to understand how someone could be down about everything, to feel like things could never possibly be what they’d hoped. Well, I get it now. After basically 15 years of feeling rejected by most people it’s hard not to feel like there’s something about you that makes others not want to develop close relationships with you. When you feel like an afterthought and so easily forgotten about it’s hard to keep putting yourself out there after a while. You get to the point where you don’t even want to offer up ideas for fun things to go do when 98% of the time everyone backs out or avoids committing in the first place. Thank goodness I have a job I absolutely love teaching kids everyday. Without those kids to go teach it’d be nearly impossible to get out of bed and do anything most days. My awesome is apparently only visible to those kids. At least I can make them smile and feel good about themselves.

    • I know how you feel. We are awesome!!!!!!!!

    • Sharon Sefton says:

      Sounds like those kids are very lucky to have you and you are very lucky to have them. A win-win. :) Are you looking in the wrong places for friends? Good luck to you and kids!

    • Afterthought,

      you are no afterthought. You are an amazing gift from God to the children in your class. Focus on what makes you great and live it every day. Love yourself and take care of yourself and others will see your shine!

      I understand that feeling. I was an “accident” and I always knew that I had “ruined” my mom’s life. My own mother robbed me of my awesome and it’s always flitting in and out of my grasp. No one understands my pain, but I realize also that no one can give me what I need to reclaim my awesomeness. Only I can give that myself now.

      And you have to do the same for yourself.

      Blessings to you on your journey! You are loved!

  247. You have inspired me! I have two baby girls, 6 mos and 24 mos. I’m going to make them each a blanket that says FULL OF AWESOME and they’ll sleep with it. When they wake up each day we’re going to talk about how awesome they are. WHen they’re big enough, they’ll ask about their blankies, and I’m going to let them read this.

  248. Amelia… you are crazy and we love you:):) Love, Brenna:):)

  249. Did someone take it from you?
    Did you let them?
    Did you hand it over, because someone told you weren’t beautiful enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough?
    Why the hell would you listen to them?
    Did you consider they might be full of shit?…….and on the show “JERSEY SHORE”?

  250. Happened to read this tonight and then have an overnight with my 4 year old Granddaughter. After dinner she wanted to watch “RIO”. As I watched her dance, twirl, sing, fly, and shake her tail feathers while giggling uncontrollably, the poem took human form in my living room. And, of course Gramma then had to join in the tail feather shaking, even if she jiggles a bit while she shakes now. What a GREAT piece of writing! Thank you.

  251. I absolutely loved this blog. I am in the process of getting my awesome back! I’m hoping one day to be kick ass awesome! I love myself again… which some would say is the hard part, all I need to do is find the confident badass from within. Nice post!

  252. You made my day. Thank you! I’d forgotten how full of awesome I am.

  253. Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. Love the confidence and enthusiasm of kids.

  254. The essay was wonderful, but it’s the picture that just pushed me over the edge into AWESOMEVILLE…love that little girl’s smile! Thanks!

  255. I have a photo of me and my mom on the front porch at my aunties…my two front teeth were missing but my smile looked as though it went from ear to ear…it was before i discovered how crule adults could really be…how mean and easyily they could inflicte control and destroy your self esteem how sad…that photo was taken sixtyfour years ago…those mean people are all dead now…the good ones are dead too and soon i to will be a memory…I lost my awesome at five recovered most of it when i had my first baby, the second baby through the fifth baby..now as a very mature grandmother i want to think only of protecting the awesome in each person be they five or ninetyfive…

  256. I can’t remember a time when I thought I was awesome – I can only ever remember feeling ‘not good enough’, ‘not pretty enough’ or that I always had to try harder. Now, at age 50 I still feel like this – parents can be so cruel in their misguided attempts to make you how they want you to be. But I’m working on changing this perception of myself – and posts like this are always a help! Thank you x

  257. Love, love, love it! As the mother of two awesome, fabulous, special daughters–I want to give this message to them and every other terrific girl out there!

  258. Oh, I loved this! I remember times like this with my three daughters when they were little and with their little girlfriends. I get to experience this awesomeness when I do face painting on children too. In fact yesterday I did face painting on children at the Lacey Community Market. Men need to get in touch with their awesomeness too. I painted a tattered American flag, 9/11/01 and a bald eagle on him yesterday.

  259. Funny, I guess I’m the only one who didn’t feel full of awesome at the age of 5. I always remember being insecure and feeling like I was fat and being embarrassed to wear a swimsuit- from the time that I can remember. I’m only now in my 30’s starting to feel good about myself for the first time in my life. It truly is a state of mind.

    • Nope, you’re not alone. All of us from emotionally and physically abusive homes had this stolen from us.

    • lisa pineapple says:

      What Mary said. You are not alone. I don’t ever remember being like the kid in the photo. Awkward, shy, self-conscious. I’m working on ‘growing old disgracefully’ to make up for it :)

  260. I have a teenage niece that is going through hell right now and placing her value on the opinions of others. I will be sharing this with her.

  261. I FREAKIN LOOOOVE that picture of the little girl!!! Her awesomeness is just ooozing out of the photo!! HOORAY for all the little girls within us! I’m 36 and cannot wait to share this message with all my friends and their kids. We are already saying to each other, “I’m waking up full of awesome TODAY!” Thank u for spreading this message and shining your light, and helping us all to remember our awesomeness within!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

  262. This makes me cry everytime i read it

  263. I don’t remember ever waking up being full of awesome, as a child. My elder siblings took that from me before I can even remember.

    As an adult, I’ve only had a few times that I can recall waking with that. What a gift it would be!

  264. I was thinking the exact same thing the other day. I’ve been wondering where that girl went, she faded away as soon as I moved back to the U.S. In the Dominican Republic, when I was 10, 9, 8, 7 etc. & even before I left the Bronx, I could not wait for the day I would not have to listen to one more lecture about being too fat to be loved, or being to bold or not knowing my place as a girl should. I thought it was all so lame. All those women were crazy (& contradicting themselves, not doing as they were saying) & those men just didn’t know better, ’cause they were boys. Now I still think I’m awesome, I just don’t show it at all. They just wore me down, I wish I would of never listened. This little essay made me smile. Thanks!

  265. Laura in Taos says:

    Thank you for this. I’m in the process of re-awesomizing myself; having been sucked dry by an unloving soon-to-be-ex. All that lies ahead is awesome!

  266. I can’t remember how long it’s been since I woke up feeling full of awesome, but my two sons tell me every time I see them. And I tell my grandchildren every time I see them!! I’m hoping somewhere along the way….my awesome will sneak back up on me and jump right in. Till then…………

  267. Wow. I see your little girl’s picture, and I can SO see my own 5 year old daughter in her. However, I forgot how to be awesome myself. So THANK YOU for reminding me that there’s so much to learn from a 5 year old, and also thank you for reminding me it’s in my power to tell her she’s awesome every day.

  268. LOVED this! A friend posted it on FB. I was smiling reading it the whole through and that smile turned into a huge grin when I saw the picture. Thanks for sharing and reminding all of us that we are AWESOME in our own unique way. Looking forward to reading your blog!

  269. I promise to be awesome, as soon as I’ve had my cuppa coffee!

  270. Love the website, but really really love this post.

  271. Love the post and the photo of your daughter. My older daughter, who’s turning 11, decided she’d rather be in art club than competitive dance. And I had to shut my own fears the heck up and let her follow her heart. So thank you so much for the reminder that she is awesome enough to know what SHE wants, not what will make other people happy.

  272. I’ve been wanting to make a sign to hang in my 9 year old daughter’s bathroom… “You’re made of awesome!” it is! Thanks so much for this!!

  273. Have been crying most of the day for the awesome I have lost and can’t begin to figure out how to get back…any ideas?

    • Try putting on paper what you DO like about yourself or what you’re good at. Also, you can ask a friend or family member what they like best about you? That’s great that you want your awesome back. It’s in there and it’ll shine through :)

    • yeah Tammy, I had to get mine back… and I just said screw them and what they think… and just started having fun not caring… I am that almost 30 year old chick dancing in the rain in the parking lot at walmart and when ppl stare… I know they wish they could be as carefree… Its been about 2 1/2 years… I went from no friends to a TON of friends, and they help remind me im awesome when Im down but i had to remind myself first so go ahead… put on party in the usa by miley cyrus grab a brush and jup in the bed and dance like no one is watching… <3 I do even ppl are watching… if they dont like it or me… well then, I guess they are full of shit, because IM AWESOME!

  274. Growing up on a house of abuse I did not feel every awesome, mostly I felt scared. But over the years I have managed to find it and now at the age of 50 I am as awesome and outrageous as I can be LOL.

  275. Thanks for this piece! I lost it, but I’m gaining my awesome back, and it’s so much fun!!! I haven’t felt that awesome in 25 years! Woohoo!

  276. I don’t remember feeling awesome, but I’m working my ass off to feel that way now. Excellent post. :)

  277. “50 Things I’m Awesome At”. I ‘borrowed’ the exercise from a grad student. I have all my classes work on this throughout the semester. Many of us bought into the ‘Myth of Inadequacy’, a powerful story told to us by those who felt it strongly themselves, and just had to share. But it wasn’t true when we bought it, and it isn’t true now. Each of us needs to get out of our own way, stop telling ourselves we are not enough, and assume our power…NOW! What would we attempt if we knew we could not fail? But even more importantly, what do you want to try, and so what if you fail? That is a result, not who you are. Don’t like the result, prepare differently. Success or failure does not alter our innate awesomeness!

    • Where can the rest of us ‘borrow’ the “50 Things” exercise? :)

    • hey Kevin where is the 50 things exercsie

      • I made a two column sheet, numbered 1-25 on the left and 26-50 on the right. The title is ’50 Things I’m Awesome at”. Each class begins with the students picking up their sheet and adding 3-4 things they have thought about since last class. The actual research project that is being worked on will be to code he responses and provide each student with a profile of all they are awesome at. Fro instance, if a student noted that they were awesome at Super Mario Bros., it might be coded for persistance and eye-hand coordination. The coding is a bonus for me, though. For most of us, we can easily see the negative about ourselves, but becoming more intellectually honest and saying/writing the positive characteristics is the gold. Watching these intelligent, talented young people struggle to write one thing they are awesome at breaks my heart, but as the classes have progressed, it seems they are finding it easier. I believe they are changing the pictures they have about themselves, actually changing the reputation they have with themselves. While there is always someone richer, thinner, faster, etc., my experience is that if each of us stops comparing our stuff to other’s stuff, and unearths the buried treasure of our enoughness that lies dormant, life blooms. If enough of us do this, the world changes.

  278. Here is a little awesomeness for you…

  279. yeah but then I freaking grew up. welcome to the real world

    • actually by growing up, you fell asleep. the world you think is real actually is not. what you knew back them, as a child, that was real. and it still exists. you need but only to wake up and you will remember who you are.

    • The real world that defines you by unattainable standards. We are working to change that status quo and when we do, whether you participated or not, you will be welcomed for your character, ethics, deeds and equality – not for your bra and/or dress size.

      • THE “REAL-WORLD” is what each individual makes it. How you see yourself is how “the real world” will too. DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE CONFIDENCE and how far it can carry you….of-course, I speak of CONFIDENCE supported and built by loved-ones. Not false bragadocious-bravado!

    • Well you could try not being an asshole…that would be a good place to start.

    • NOPE, the “real-world” is what you make it TO-YOU. All about perspective and disallowing the theft of AWESOMENESS!! SO AS PARENTS, INSTILL/INSTALL it in your progeny! THEY ARE YOUR LEGACY!!! Nothing I have accomplished compares to the pride derived fron watching my kids grow, take-on-challenges and succeed…NOT DEFINED BY SOCIETY, but rather the pleasure shared in watching your-own child’s smile through each task….THERE IS AWESOME SUCCESS in GREAT ATTEMPTS!! (win or lose) is merely a by-product. My 6 yr.old’s micro-soccer-team does not keep score! THEY JUST PLAY!!! PURE-FUN/ENJOYMENT!……(parents keep score) leave it to ADULTS to “foul-up” purity!!

  280. At 70, I still believe, “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” If you’ve lost your awesomeness, start looking for it!

  281. This is the cutest photo and blog I have seen in a long time. I have three girls 6, 11 and 19. I laughed so hard because I have seen them all full of awesomeness!

  282. Holy cuteness. Amelia is pretty fabulous. I love the sunglasses and I love her fabulous pose. Great post! Don’t let anyone steal your sunshine.

  283. I was a wild child- filthy with disheveled hair and some kids in our neighborhood weren’t allowed to play with me because of my “unladylike” behavior! I had an AWESOME childhood, free like nature, that gave me the confidence to stand today for what I believe, not what the status quo is. I homeschool my AWESOME kids, and they run wild too. I love makeup and if I want to wear glitter eyeliner to the grocery store I do and it looks AWESOME!

  284. Yeah! I am full of awesome and then…. I find a mirror – oops!

  285. This is the kind of post that makes me miss a certain great kind of American woman-ness. Should be more of that kind around! Thanks.

  286. Be what you want and who you really are..you were intended to be unique; your genes went to a lot of trouble to ensure that, and the gene pool they came from, before them.

    I genuinely don’t care what people think of me. That’s not because I’m a man, or because I’m obnoxious, stubborn, or arrogant, it’s because I can’t really be me if I worry too much about other people’s opinion of the person I am, or, indeed, whether they see the world in the same way as me. I don’t suppose I’m awasome, and I don’t care, that much, whether I am or not. I love life, my life, and the world around me, and that’s enough. I don’t let them get to me, when they try to dull my enthusiasm, and neither should you, any one of you. Man, woman, makes no difference. Be yourself, live your life, do it your way, and believe you are here for a purpose. You are, it’s simply to be you, and to make the world a better place, simply because you are..

  287. This is the best blog post i have EVER read!

  288. What an inspiring post. I am visiting from Mrs 4444 blog. She is right; this post needs to be read by dads and moms everywhere. I personally related to it as I am now 65 years old and just now in the process of finding my awesome. Thank you for writing this.

  289. That is the best picture EV.ER!
    I have two daughters and I am scratching and clawing to protect their awesomeness!
    Thank you!!!!
    Kerry at housetalkn.blogspot.com

  290. Yes I want my awesomeness back….I think I lost it in the 80’s! Love this showing my awesome teen today after school tomorrow the awesomeness is back!

  291. This post saved me this morning. My daughter and I were caught up in “Closet Wars,” when I remembered that I should be encouraging the Awesome. We came up with a list of awesome things she had done this morning. Total mood shift. I linked to your post at my blog: http://authoramok.blogspot.com/2011/09/14-kinds-of-awesome.html

    Thanks.

  292. Grew up?? I grew up, got old, and realized that life is ONLY about seeking these moments of “awesome” if you want to truly thrive and survive in the real world. Enjoying the life God gave you, no matter what it looks like, looking for the joy in each day is what the real world is intended to be about. That, to me, is awesomeness! Great post!!

  293. LOVED THIS ~ What great excitement and fearful wisdom you have regarding your daughter’s possible loss of AWESOME!

    How can we change the WORLD … ????

    Have you read “Reviving Ophelia” and “Ophelia Speaks”?
    Also.. “See Jane Win”.

    I own all three and would be happy to send them to you!

  294. this is neat. i didn’t feel awesome when i was growing up. felt shy, unsure, but i do remember wanting to have fun. this post kind of reminds me of why i need to do so much work to feel good about myself as an adult, because i didn’t have a great childhood.

    i want to thank all the parents that are strong enough to work on their own issues so they don’t pass them down to their kids! and create positive, loving environments for children. you all rock, you are the mothers of the universe!

    • Lost My AWESOME says:

      I can totally relate. I was raised to assume I was constantly under a microscope and to act according. To this day @ 37 I am still consumed with drawing as little attention to myself as possible. Never feeling as though I “measure up”.
      Thanks in great part to my husbands influence, my 10 year old daughter is FULL OF AWESOME doing things I would never dare in a million years….Deciding she wanted to learn an instrument and signing up for lessons (by herself), deciding on a whim to audition for community theater and doing so well she landed not one part but two!!
      Often I find myself trying to dim down her awesome with statements like “People will think…” and “People might…” She never lets me bring her down. I admire the young woman she is becoming and wish I was more like her.

  295. What a FABULOUS post, thank you so much for sharing. Why do we let people take that awsomeness away….because we don’t want to feel like we are big noting ourselves so that people think we are arrogant, not awesome. F*CK them, I am awesome. I make mistakes just like a 5year old does, and yes as an adult I should no better, but back then, my other 5 year old friends didn’t say I was a horrible person, instead after a brief ‘mUm’…we were best friends again!

    Thank you for a great post!

  296. She is SO full of AWESOME!! I freaking love it!!! I was once awesome, and then yes, society took it away from me. But at 37, I am SO bringing AWESOME back. :D

    I. AM. AWESOME. <3

  297. Totally Fabulous! The rules for my (now 18 year old) daughter when she was little were: 1) No cigarettes 2) No boys & 3) No beauty pageants. She is a happy, loving, funny and loyal young woman. And she kicks ass!
    xoxo
    Pam

  298. Isn’t this post just awesome! Remember when life was carefree like this? According to this, I haven’t lost my awesomeness because I don’t define myself by others’ standards. Bring on your awesome!

    P.S. Melissa, Amelia’s expression, pose and attitude are what draw me to keep re-reading this post. I love it!

  299. As a father and grandfather, I Love this and will share.

    Came here from HPKT

  300. this is one of the best blog posts i have ever read. hands down. this rings so true for me. i know it was just a blog post for you, but i got a little piece of ‘my awesome’ back just reading it. you have given me something of myself back, just by sharing. thank you. from the bottom of my heart. <3

  301. I do remember feeling awesome…and letting it sadly slip away into insecurity. Even though I know my daughter will have days were life gets her down, I want her to always be able to brush it off and return to a state of awesomeness!

  302. Jennifer Young says:

    She is about as AWESOME as it gets! BTW..is that a T-REX shirt she has on? If so, where can I get one? Great Blog!!

  303. What a great post here. I remember yesterday I woke up feeling awesone, but I feel as though life does get in the way of us feeling this way.

    I found a great way of making sure I wake up awesome, I use subliminal messages myself.
    It is certainly giving me the energy to wake awesome, and is helping my daughter who has behavioural difficulties and is 5, feel just as awesome because her dad feels it.

    Thank you Harris for this inspiring post, keep feeling awesome!

  304. Oh I remember awesome. Mismatched barrettes, no front teeth, the gaudiest and brightest short sets I could find, jelly shoes with white socks and I rocked every bit of it!! I have gotten my awesome back and I will say, it is an amazing thing to wake up loving yourself no matter how you look or feel. I wish everyone could find their awesome. Lil Amelia is full of awesome and her picture made me smile. When the world starts to creep in on her in a few years tell her what I tell my pre-teen niece who is also so full of awesome and so sure of herself. I tell her, “kid are ahead of the curve, you realize which how wonderful you are and are comfy in your my own skin…anyone who isn’t ok with you just as you are can stick it.” She laughs when she tells me about kids at school and adds “they can stick it.” :-)

  305. I LOVE THIS POST! Thank you so much.

  306. I freakin love it! This just made my day. The last few weeks I have been felling pretty unawesome when I wake up in the morning, but this put things in perspective a little bit. My little people wake up awesome all the time and its pretty incredible to see. Love it!!!

  307. Great post and so true!

  308. Yes! I DO remember being 5 years old and feeling this way! I also remember that by 7, that great feeling went away for a while. The good news is that I found it again, and can often summon it up.

    This is a great post! You are full of awesome!

  309. Yep, I’ve definitely lost my awesomeness. Thanks for posting this…now I am off to re-find it!!!

  310. A great reminder for me when dealing with my 8 year old!

  311. I love this so much. I may share this with the women at work who don’t have home computers.

    I have an overwhelming urge to cross stitch this as a sampler and hang it on my wall forever.

  312. My daughter saw the picture, she thinks your daughter looks great.

    I asked her if she wakes up feeling awesome.

    She said, “Yes!”

    I told her good and to keep that feeling always.

    She said, “I will, even when I am a grown-up!” and sauntered away.

  313. She Rocks!
    And so does your post!!

    Thanks,
    I am sharing this with my awesome 19yr old today.

  314. Just a fabulous post! I have a little girl and boy, and I work with many children. Some of them have already lost their awesome and it breaks my heart! Every child should feel this way when they wake up in the morning. And, as a realist, I will say that every adult should feel this way at least once a week :)

  315. This is great! :-)

    I was just reading this to my husband and he said “You’ve got some of that in you. There’s still awesome in you!”

    Made me smile! Will definitely be teaching this to my children!! Thanks for the reminder!

  316. That was awesome! Great post :)

  317. Its my Birthday today and even though im sick as a dog, Im still pretty awesome. My kids keep me laughing today, theyre so silly funny and awesome!

  318. My 3 yr old granddaughter feels awesome, but I didn’t know how to describe it until fading this post. I wish I could help her older brother feel awesome. Is that possible?

  319. Hello! I just want you to know that this article is completely amazing. I wrote a poem inspired by it, and I was wondering- could I possibly send it to you?

  320. This is fantastic…I found it on Pineterest! It made me smile…it actually made my day seem happy…it made me feel so lucky to have a little girl who is full of awesome…THANK YOU!

  321. What an AWESOME post! And a great message. I’m off to find my awesome right now.

  322. How awesome are you!
    How great is this post!
    Thanks for the jolt! I love this and yes your little girl is Awesomeness … from one whose awesomeness was taken before she knew she was awesome, thank you for raising your daughter with awesomeness and sharing it with all of us!

    Blessings,
    Andrea

  323. Best post evah.

  324. I let someone tell me I wasn’t awesome. And I believed her. She crushed me. If it wasn’t for the amazing friends then, and 28 years later still my closest friends, I wouldn’t be the person I am.
    To those ‘Awesome Stealing People’ I hope they find the awesome in them selves instead of trying to steal it from others.
    JCat

    • Every single person has some Awesomeness in them! Whoever told you different, was probably Jealous! It is easy to listen to Negative comments, Just listen to yourself!

  325. My awesomeness is so loud that I can’t even hear the haters!!…*WHOOSH*…. *WHOOSH*

  326. I wake up AWESOME every day too! I didn’t about 5 years ago, but then I changed alot about my life and I can truly say I wake up loving life every morning. I even have a message on my mirror that says “you rock” which I see every day when I get ready… because I DO rock! L?VE life! :) cute pic btw

  327. Absolutely LOVE this post!!! Adding your button to my blog!!

  328. Such great positive thoughts. It really hits home to think about where our “awesome” went. Thanks for sharing!

  329. Crying here. Thanks. No, really, I mean it. Thanks. I am going to look and see if my awesome is hidden in a desk drawer. Or under the table. I know I left it here someplace.

    • Lisa,
      It isn’t under the table. Close your eyes and put your hand on your belly. Feel that warm spot in there? That little thing that feels like a small fire? That’s your awesome. It is in there, you just need to let it breathe and let those flames grow.

  330. I got a chance to read this from a friend who was kind to share it. I have all boys but reading this really got me to remember how I need to feel “awesome” again. It can apply to anyone, even the boys out there. Once upon a time, my son’s (older ones) had sparkles in their eyes, they didn’t care about the small stuff, and now, it’s not the same sparkle, yet I see the sparkle in my 5 & 4 year old boys, it’s a reminder of how growing up can take away that sparkle/awesome feeling that innocence that was once there. Thank you for this EXCELLENT post. Truly great! :)

  331. This was shared by a friend. I don’t have girls but I AM one! I wish, and wish with all my might that I can find my awesomeness again!!!

  332. Thanks for the reminder. At 63, I treasure the moments of awesome; and try to be ready for those moments. Back to volunteering as a G.S. adult, to encourage awesome in girls.

  333. OMG…I love this blog! Great job in sharing something so massively important Amy!

  334. I just wanted to say that your post brought me to tears. My daughter is turning 9 and I am witnessing the slow shift from awesome to not-good-enough. I feel this terrible aching sadness every time she says or does something that reflects this shift and I would give anything for her to have just a few more years of awesome. Very well said.

  335. LOVE IT!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing….I dropped my daughter off at school in a snuggie the other day because she thinks its fabulous and is confident in herself…we all want to feel awesome about ourselves again!

  336. LOVE this! Thanks for sharing……support your girlfriends, sisters, coworkers, and colleagues!! Treat them like the awesome women they are.

  337. Love it!!

  338. I just loved ready this. Thanks for making my day :) I see this in my nieces and nephews everyday and hope they never loose their sense of awesomeness!

  339. Um. So. I’m nearly in tears right now, after reading this. I’m at the beginnings of (another) depression right now (yay Bipolar disorder, only not, ’cause it needs to go die in a fire), and it’s very difficult to make me feel when I’m like this. This post did. In a good way, to boot.

    I am awesome. I can be that little girl again. Bipolar Disorder be damned.

  340. freaking perfect. this little girl looks like my sister from when she was little :-) and she is STILL awesome, and makes me feel awesome every day.

  341. Totally awesome post! A friend of mine shared it with me after seeing the picture of my twin daughters I posted this morning. It was much like this awesome picture of your daughter! Great reminder for us all. We ARE ALL AWESOME.

  342. I find that the kids who exude the most “awesomeness” are the ones that are loved unconditionally and given the freedom to express themselves and their innate awesomeness. As grown-ups, we can do that too. Surround yourself with people you love who love you and give you the support and freedom to be the awesome person that you are. You will wake up smiling and be able to let that awesomeness shine. I went through many years of feeling less than awesome (and more or less crappy) until I made a conscious choice to be happier and not let things get me depressed. The more I chose happiness, the happier I felt overall, and the less I let the little things bother me. I am loved, I love life, and I enjoy the awesomeness of my friends, family, and this world. Go Amelia (and everyone)! Be awesome!

  343. I think the difference is that when you are young, you are not as concerned about your reputation. I love this post because we all should think of ourselves as being awesome because we are awesome.

  344. Love this! As a grown woman and parent to an almost two year old daughter (and soon to be eight year old son), I really appreciate your post.

    I do remember that feeling from when I was a little kid and then life happened and I had my moments when I felt anything but awesome. However, for me one of the best things about being an adult and having perspective is understanding how to get it back or at least feel that way more often than not.

    Thanks again for sharing. Awesome post! I hope you feel awesome today and every day (or at least many more) going forward! :)

  345. Reading through all these comments, I made a connection to my soon-to-be released book Dream Seekers. One of the central themes throughout my middle-grade fantasy series is that life throws changes at you and surrounding yourself with friends and family (who think you’re AWESOME) can get you through it.

    I love this post! and I enjoyed reading all the comments that showed how people were positively affected by it. Now we just need all the cynical folks to find their friends and family who indeed think they are awesome.

    Read more about Dream Seekers at http://www.dreamseekeradventures.com.

  346. Amy Meighan says:

    I still get hit on for doing the right thing but I’ll be damned if I stop doing that. That’s what getting your awesome back is!! Stand up for what’s right, the good work to do for folks and do not let the turkey’s get you down…FLY WITH THE EAGLES!!!

  347. My son turns 5 next week. He wakes up every day full of awesome and I have gained a new love of life just by watching him and his awesome. Just as girls lose their awesome to media influences and ridiculous expectations, so too, I believe, are boys at risk to lose their awesome. They should always be able to cry, kiss, feel, communicate,play, and experience the full range of life. I’m fighting for my son to keep his awesome, and will use this blog post as a reminder of my sacred task as a parent–and to remind me to ALWAYS learn from our kids.

  348. I love this post. It makes me think of when I was little, and how everything slid off my back like a little duck. I have pictures of myself at that age looking very much like your daughter, and right now, after a horrible high school experience, I’m finally getting back my awesome.

  349. I always knew my daughter was awesome, but I guess I forgot I was too….I am too. I am going to share this with my friends to remind them. “You are the child who danced in the sunshine….” Love yourself all you beautiful women.

  350. This makes me want to cut out her picture and put it on my mirror to be reminded to let my awesomeness out every day! What a great thing to share and be reminded of! Thank you!

  351. Thank you for this real talk.
    Girls/women need to set their own paths and rock out with that!

  352. This made me cry….I so need to find my awesomeness and not instill my insecurities on my girls….

  353. i liked this. the only request i would make, though, is to move away from using the skinny = freakish line. it’s horrible if girls/women feel bad about themselves because they think they aren’t skinny enough, but it’s also horrible if girls/women feel bad about themselves because they’re called an ugly skeleton or bag of bones because they are thin. we shouldn’t exchange one sort of body shaming for another. i’m sure this was inadvertent, rather than deliberate, but it is something to be mindful of.

  354. I got my awesome back three years ago. I love being me, even more now that I’m reminded just how awesome I am.

  355. This is truly what we should ALL feel…..easier said I know. I know this because I have lost my awesome so many years ago!!!! After reading this I think, no I know, I will work hard each and every day to get my awesome back<3 Thank you readers and Alicia for bringing this my way so that I can have a chance to regain what I once had and to show my 14 year old daughter how to keep hers!!!!!

  356. Grown up boy here and looking forward to rediscovering my awesome. Great post.

  357. Right on. I definitely lost my awesome there for awhile and am slowly regaining it. Love this post and your writing!

  358. Think what the world would be like if we could all find our awesome and share it with others!

  359. Think what the world would be like if we could all find our awesome and share it with others!

  360. Such a wonderful post! Amazing! I hope that I can keep my awesome. I just found it. I hope that my boys will always have their awesome! Thank you! I am going to have a MUCH better day now. :)

  361. Love! I have two boys but I needed this for myself! :)

  362. THANK YOU, SOOOOOO much for that. I will wake up awesome, I know my 3year old does!! ? ty

  363. Wow. This made me cry too. LoL. I love how there are so many different comments from different women in all walks of life. Some that still know they are awesome, and others that have lost touch with it, like me. Being an adult is soooo hard, and when we were little, all we wanted to do was grow up. How crazy were we!? LoL. I only have boys also (three of them) but they have their own awesomeness about them, and I hope to teach them to hold on to it. I also hope to get mine back.

  364. Love this!! just found your site!!!this is on our wall right now! and getting quite the buzz! its made peolpe’s day!And since our site is quite different than yours, we all want to feel AWESOME!

  365. I was just thinking about how I am going to be able to keep the awesomeness going with my girls. How I can teach them not to listen to the awesome thieves. This post has given me some inspiration to keep on feeling awesome and lead by example. Thanks.

    • Paula, you and your husband (I presume you have a husband from the title of your last blog :-) ) are the keepers of your girls’ “awesome”. I believe that as long as parents believe in their children and let them know that they can always come back to mom and dad for love, guidance, re-assurance, and support, they will always leap out of our arms full of “awesome” and not let anyone else take it away. :-)

      • This is definitely my hope and where my energy is going. I love what you have to say also Paula, filling yourself up with awesome and leading by example….I stumbled onto this blog yesterday. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE what you are doing!!!

        Thanks!
        Juanita

  366. I love it, Melissa! You and Amelia are too cool. Thanks for a great inspiring moment that woke me up this morning.

  367. Thank you for sharing and for the insight. Children are awesome! I love being reminded of their happiness and CAN-DO Attitude! :)

  368. I was sent this through a friend because today is “one of those days.” You have made my day….and what a lucky little girl you have to have a Mom like you!?

  369. THAT was awesome!!!

  370. I love this! I recently finished “Reviving Ophelia” by Mary Piper and it explores some of the same themes!!!

  371. As the mom of a little girl who is also full of awesome I thank you for this post. It reminded me to reclaim my awesome in order to help her hold onto hers!

  372. Don’t know about anyone else, but I am STILL full of awesomesauce! I amaze myself everday! :-))))))))))

  373. You absolutely Rock! A powerful message :-)

  374. Thank you for this! I have tears in my eyes because I am running on empty awesome today and I want to fill up my “awesome tank”.

  375. I’ve sat here for ten minutes thinking; I don’t actually have any memories of being awesome. There were moments of escape, which I remember being very nice, but I don’t recall feeling awesome. I must have, at some point, but I just don’t remember. That’s lame. :/

    • That can all be changed. This afternoon, even. Let the awesome begin Calli!

    • Hi Calli! – your honesty in your response proves you are totally awesome! Do something today that you love to do and I bet you will have that awesome feeling!

    • Calli, I was thinking the same thing. I REMEMBER age 5. I did not feel awesome. We definitely did NOT have an awesome inducing mother raising us. Just the opposite, beating us down. I am 50 now, and determined to find that awesomeness. Actually, have been working on it for the past year. (Warrior Dash and skydiving this summer, pushing myself out of my comfort zone). Slowly getting there, I think. Hard to fight against old messages, but even a little progress is progress! Start taking those steps, Calli.

      And my kids are full of awesome, too!

  376. this is awesome! my mom told me i wasn’t awesome, and overcoming that was hard.. but i will never forget how great and full of potential my kid and future kids will be.. i will support them in all their “weird”, “crazy” ways cuz that’s what parents are supposed to do.. good article!!!

  377. AWESOME! Love this! Thank you!

  378. YOU are awesome! Great message. I LOVED it! I’m gonna get MY awesome back!

  379. Kim Wilczyk says:

    Thanks so much for reminding me that I am awesome!! So are all of you out there!! Let’s spread this awesomeness around until it’s contagious.

  380. loving the awesomeness of the little one, my 2year old is also brimming with the stuff. I do think however that if i woke up like that at 30 I might be consider me a crazy person at best and a knob head at worst ;-)

  381. My 16 year old daughter and I were in the car yesterday (she wss practising driving) and she said to me “Dad, I love the fall” She thought for a minute and said, “You know, I love whatever season it is.”

    That is waking up full of awesome… you can’t match that for positive.

  382. Thank you for posting this. I felt fairly awesome until I was 7. Between then and the age of 14, my great-grandmother frequently told me that “boys don’t like fat girls”, and would do this pantomime with her arms way out to her sides/cheeks puffed out anytime she saw me eating. Assuming that I was fat, and using her logic that boys don’t like fat girls, I was pretty sure that no one would ever like me. I did a lot of things in my teen years that I would never want a daughter of mine to do, and it took me getting through my 20’s to finally start to feel awesome again at 31. My brother and his wife are having a daughter at the end of this month, and I’m determined to do everything I can to make sure she keeps her awesome. Fight the good fight.

  383. I think Sarah wakes up with her awesome intact most days. It’s a good thing.

  384. Mrs. 4444 directed me over here. You have an awesome amount of comments but this post does make the reader wonder why and question what’s going on so the amount of comments is warranted. 4 daughters – they are awesome and now some are having awesome children of their own. The great thing about a kid is that innocence with their approach to the world. They don’t care about the stupid norms, classifications, stereotypes, and general garbage of the adult world.
    thanks for the post

  385. Gil Van Wagner says:

    Bravo. Everyone is awesome. Keep on sharing the message.

  386. marie hammond says:

    when i read this article it brought back alot of memories of how i was raised as a girl.my own father told me how DUMBi was. i felt UGLY all my life and still feel worthless to myself. i was good for nothing in my dad’s eyes.i was a dumb donkey in school as well so i did not meet my dad’s approval in any way as well. i was demean. and the same cycle was repeated when married first husband.ended marring a man fifteen years older than me i was 16 when i met him.but it’s true i feel i always want to be of approval to a man. i just pray my girls don’t carry this syndrom in their lives or their children!

    • Marie, you’re an adult now. You don’t have to let the idiots of your past have control over you now. You don’t need anyone else’s approval to be worthy of respect. You are as awesome as you think you are. TELL yourself, out loud, every morning “I am Marie… and I am AWESOME!”

      Love your girls and don’t forget to tell them so. Don’t forget to tell them that YOU think they’re awesome.

      If you want to break the cycle, you need to start with the person in the mirror. YOU CAN DO IT!

  387. For some reason my eight year old daughter has already lost that feeling, don’t know why. Her dad & I tell her all the time that she is awesome, etc. Guess I need to remind her even more.

  388. You don’t know me, but you just improved my day. God bless you and your kid.

  389. I just found this poem & your blog…I just hope I can teach this to my own daughter. She is awesome and I want her to stay that way forever!!! This made my day and I’m going to share this with all the AWESOME Girls I know. Thank you!

  390. Just love it!!!

  391. My dreams were always about escaping from people. Even as an adult. I dreamed of coasting in a bubble, flying just over the ground where no one could hurt me, jumping and not landing for hundreds of feet.

    My dream has come true. Romantic movies carry me around the world where a lifetime takes place in only two hours. Then I blink and am returned to the solitude of my TV room.

  392. Thanks for that! Much needed :-)

  393. My daughter is 4 and she has been living with her dad for 2 years now, with a heavy, overbearing influence by his mother and she is a completely different child than when I had her for the first 2 and half years of her life. She was FULL of awesome and now she is almost totally into all the disney princess stuff and pink pink pink and high heels and makeup. I don’t get it. It’s sad and I hope it doesn’t last. She is so intelligent but I think she is being dumbed down by grandma. :/ Breaks my heart.

    • The princess thing is AWESOME! She’ll be out of the phase in a year or two max, so enjoy the innocence while it lasts. Don’t play down her interests, or YOU’LL be the one taking away her awesome. Every little girl likes to feel pretty. That doesn’t mean she won’t grow up strong, intelligent and self-assured too. It sounds like she has a positive female role model in you, the lucky girl! :-)

  394. This post is awesome. Also, especially if my momma and I can figure out where that photo is, I can show you that Amelia is my doppelganger. No joke. My frames were not as awesome as hers, but for early 90s they were still pretty awesome: wire-rimmed pink.

  395. Love it! My 5yo is definitely full of awesome, and long may it last. I am making the choices I believe will help her hang on to that for as long as possible, but part of growing up is having your sense of self challenged, I believe. You have to go through a difficult time in order to come out stronger and validated on the other side. I just hope to provide her a strong base of positive memories to come back to after the turmoil of adolescence and young adulthood.

  396. I didn’t let anyone take my awesome. It was stolen by a trusted adult. Here I am, 35 years later, still piecing it back together. Right now I’ve got some awe about my daighter’s awesome and it’s helping me prioritize so I can help her keep her awesome. Thanks for labeling feminine spirit power in such an awesome way!

  397. Marcie Poss says:

    I’d like to leave a photo of my 4 year old waking up full of awesomeness!!!

  398. I posted earlier but seriously I can’t tell you enough how much this meant to me. I created a blog post of my own and used your words . . . I linked back to here and gave you full credit.

    Thanks again. Here is my post:
    http://westerhold.blogspot.com/2011/09/my-girl-is-awesome.html

  399. I love it! This so reminds me of my 4 yr. old daughter!!! Little girls need to be reminded of their total awesomeness as they grow up–Thank you for putting this into words :)

  400. Beautiful and full of energy!! Love it and I will keep this in my mind every morning when my 5year old girl wakes up! Thank you for sharing !

  401. WOW!!! Thanks!!! I am lucky enough to be married to a man who not only believes I am awesome, he tells me everyday. We, as women fight the devil inside that says we are not enough…thanks for telling us that we are!!

  402. DwenjustDwen says:

    Favorite saying: You are FULL of Win, Covered in Awesome-Sauce!

  403. Thanks for the reminders that I AM awesome and that those who try to tell me different are full of it! Powerful stuff this post.

  404. LOVE it. Love it, love it, love it, and sharing it along….

    And just love generally the entire concept and theme and mission of this site… wish I’d found it earlier!!!!

  405. This is the BEST post I’ve read in such a long time. I love it, so simple yet inspiring. Made my day!

  406. My niece just shared your site with me and I love it and your thoughts! I have printed the picture and posted in my office at work to remind me of what I “used” to feel like! Thanks! :)

    Nancy

  407. As a brand new first time mom to my daughter zoe, i found this post encapsulated so much of what i already felt i wanted my daughter to believe in. Every time some one asks how she is, I always respond “100% awesome!” … We didn’t know what we were having and I truly didn’t care what I had, as long as baby was healthy. I admitted to my husband the other night that now she’s here, I am so happy to have a daughter… I want her to know how incredible she. Our world needs more bold, fearless women. I am hopeful that my zoe will be one of them.

  408. I love this- every word and the pic is inspirational – it all is.
    Thank you for making my Friday & hopefully making every day that follows Full of Awesome!

  409. My four year old is dressed in a ripped up old flower girl dress to wear to preschool. She is full of awesome. She is also a very beautiful little girl with red hair. What makes me crazy is that everywhere we go strangers come up to us (with good intentions) and tell me/her that she is so beautiful and how much they love her red hair. It worries me that since that is the first and most frequent thing people comment on to her that it will be this ingrained part of her self image. I want her to see herself as smart, bold, spunky, creative, a friend, and all these great things ahead of beautiful. It kind of feels like me against the world there.

  410. My baby girl rocks her awesome – she was a handful when she was an awesome and independent little girl, but she grew in to the most amazing young woman ever! She is definitely her mother’s daughter~
    Thanks for an inspiring article~

  411. Awesome article! Loved it!

  412. I just wanted to let you know that at least a few of the hits you’re getting are from some really awesome folks! I’ve shared this with a few fiends on facebook and plan to keep living my life as awesomely as I can! And! I turned 40 today! How cool is that?! I hope you have a beautiful day.

  413. I’m not a girl, and don’t have a daughter and I have no idea now what I was searching for when I stumbled on this post, but I am glad I did. My son used to wake me up every morning at the crack of dawn, packed full of awesome and ready to take on the world! That simple act used to make my days awesome too. Now, at 10, I have to pry him out of bed and he comes home from school stressed out every day because other people are stealing his awesome. This post triggered me to leave a note under his pillow to remind him how awesome he still is. And that simple act made my day awesome because I know he’ll smile and give me a huge hug when he reads it!
    Thank you for helping me find my awesome.

    • You’ve triggered many thoughts and memories of the last 60 years. Really!! I recall this happening to me, then my kids, and now my grandkids….what happens to that awesome spirit that first year of school? These innocent little faces start the year believing they are the cutest, the smartest, that their mom’s are the prettiest, and that life is a crayon box full of rainbows and adventures…..As I look at their school pictures, In that one year, kindergarten to first grade, I see the loss of a twinkle, an innocence, a sparkle, a confidence. What happened to them in that year? Is there a “awesome robber” in the coat room?
      Jeff….What a thoughtful dad, keep writing those notes…you’re are truly awesome!

      • A very good website for you and for all the others as well is Single Dad Laughing (www.danoah.com). It talks about parenting and so many other topics…I think you’ll love it!!!

  414. I was still a little girl. How sad is that? I mean a really little girl. I think I was in the 1st or 2nd grade when I started comparing myself to other girls who I thought were prettier than me. I don’t know where I got that idea from, either. Maybe TV? My hair was thin, straight and brown…and the other girls had curly blond hair. I wanted curly blond hair.

    We need to empower our children. Something is wrong when a child so young already wishes she was somebody else.

    • I am so sorry. Its sad isn’t it. My whole life until I was an adult I was called names because of my nose. THAT…is stil with me today. Always considering surgery. Ridiculous!! Kids are powerful! We tend to love them for thier honesty, but the damage they do….insurmountable!.

  415. Like Calli, trying to remember feeling full of awesome. I remember being the fat kid. I remember always having to be the boy for square dancing in gym class because there weren’t enough boys and I was tall. I remember wishing I could be delicate and shy like the more girly girls. Then came adolescence, and things got worse.

    It’s gonna take constant reminders and refills to top off this awesome tank. How about a BPA-free water bottle so we can chug some awesomesauce?

    • Kris –
      Water bottles are on the way! Be watching this week next week! http://www.pigtailpals.com/fullofawesome.html

      And then I want you to chug away on the awesomesauce, okay?

    • Kris-
      I totally relate to what you wrote…I still struggle with it. I am NOT a girly girl! I am not soft, delicate or shy and I find myself wishing I could be that way, but I can’t; I’m not wired that way. Unfortunately, society doesn’t embrace different and I lost my awesome a looooong time ago. The good news is we can get it back. It’ll be difficult, but we can do it! :-)

  416. This was exactly what I needed today. Thank you so much for sharing, and being awesome in general. :)

  417. Love it! Great blog. I just posted it on my fan page. Really – this is what it’s all about. Thanks you so much!

    Patricia Phelan Clapp
    Transition Coach

  418. THIS POST is FULL OF AWESOME!!!! Love it!!! :) Will be sharing!

  419. Nice post, but the t-shirts are a bit much, don’t you think? Why would you feel the need to advertise to others what you know in your heart, even if you are only 5 years old. Perhaps it would be kinder and less self-absorbed to have t-shirts that read: You’re Awesome!

    just sayin’

    • Clearly I don’t think they are too much because I launched them, am proud of them, and they happen to be selling like crazy. I’m really looking forward to making a donation from the profits towards my local women’s shelter, to help them as they build women back up.

    • You have a great message for girls, and people of all ages and gender actually. Alexandra does have a good comment here though and I’m disappointed to see she is essentially given a poke-to-the-chest in response. I’ve shared the “Waking up Full of Awesome” on my page and really love this message, but I agree it’s a bit “loud” on a t-shirt. As she says, why do you have to scream this on your shirt if you have it in your heart? Because it sells? Well, then, I’m not as impressed with this blog or the author anymore. She’s no Awesome thief, she has a good suggestion. I won’t buy a shirt that says “Full of Awesome” even though I like the message. If it said, “YOU’RE Awesome!” I’d think about it. That really shares the message. Another example were the bumper stickers a few years ago that say “I Hate Mean People.” Well, that’s “Mean.” I saw another sticker that said “I LOVE Nice People” in the similar style and type as the first. Bingo, there’s the message we were looking for! If you’re fighting the self-absorbed, vain, and image centered then a shirt that screams “I’m Awesome” could backfire. Not that is has to, but it could. Again, I love the message you’re sending but give Alexandra’s comment some consideration as constructive rather than adversarial.

      • JLeo –
        I think people want to wear the Full Of Awesome tee for the very reason tshirts today exist – it is a way to say something about yourself. Today I will be wearing a Pittsburgh Steelers tee. Why? Because I want to identify with that group that will be cheering them on. I want to say, “I’m a Steelers fan”. I know I am in my heart, but I want to celebrate it and shout it out. Same reason I wear a race shirt on the days I do 5Ks….tshirts let us feel part of a group, part of an event.

        This little Full of Awesome post became an event. The emails I am getting from people telling me personal stories, or asking for a sticker or tshirt or water bottle are overwhelming. I decided to respond to their requests. The blog post was published on Aug 3. The tshirts were created on Sept 15 after an enormous amount of requests for them. Not because it sells (although, Pigtail Pals is a for profit business), but because it serves for people a constant reminder to choose awesome. Pigtail Pals began as a tshirt shop for girls because I felt girls needed more empowering messages on apparel. I think this fits the bill. We’re also in the process of creating a Full of Awesome website, where people can go to leave messages of encouragement, post photos of awesome moments, seek inspiration, and grab merchandise to give as gifts. None of this has been released yet, but a portion of these profits from these sales is going to then be donated to groups working with kids that build up awesome. Sorry you are unimpressed with me anymore, but I’m proud of what I do, and I think this is going to be a very neat project that does a lot of good for people.

        And therein, I believe, lays the difference between a vain “I’m awesome” shirt, or a “Full of Awesome” shirt. I find all of the princess and tiara and diva shirts to be incredibly vain. I’m not a big fan of raising little girls with a sense of entitlement. But I am a fan of raising little girls, and reminding those around them, to choose awesome as their state of mind.

        • A very good website for you and for all the others as well is Single Dad Laughing (www.danoah.com). It talks about parenting and so many other topics…I think you’ll love it!!!

          While they’re evaluating my comment for suitability, I must say to Melissa’s other comment,
          “GO STEELERS! Hope you are FULL OF AWESOME!!!”

        • I thank you for your reply. Again, I do think your message is a great one and I’ve shared it along myself. I think there IS an important distinction to be made between your “Full of Awesome” in a self-confidence message and the mis-reading of that as “I’m Awesome” in a self-serving message. I have two daughters, ages 2 and 4 and they can’t name a single Disney Princess. That’s a hard task to maintain, yet my 4-year-old still likes to pretend she’s a “princess.” When the result is seeing her wrap her head in ribbons and use a stick to turn her sister into a frog, then maybe that’s not so bad. Maybe that can be Awesome too.
          It’s a hard line to walk, and I agree with you that the “Full of Awesome” is an empowering message that can potentially help many kids reconsider if those trying to “take their Awesome” may not just be full of shit, as you say.

  420. Nancy K. Estey says:

    As a mother of an adult AWESOME daughter; and grandmother to her two AWESOME-ER girls; what you are doing is fantastically AWESOME. When mine was young I had her listen to Whitney Houston’s “The Greatest Love of All” to re-enforce what I hoped I’d been teaching her(and her brother) about herself. Since as her mother, I had NOT learned that
    about myself till late into my adult life. It was AWESOME when I did and there was NO turning back—— for either of us!! Keep up the good work.
    Nancy : > }

  421. This is amazing! Thank you for sharing it with us! :)

  422. Oh my gosh, this is fantastic!! I hope to teach our daughter the exact same thing. And that pic of Amelia is most definitely awesome! :)

  423. I just dyed my hair purple because the awesome inside me wanted an outlet. Now everyone who sees me can’t miss my awesome. I didn’t bother to cover my grays because they’re a part of my awesome too. I wish everyone could find a way to let their awesome shine through. Love the pic of your daughter, what a rock star!

    • Shelley that is awesome! I put streaks of purple in my hair this summer when our 17yo high school babysitter was diagnosed with a very rare malignant brain tumor and kicked cancer’s ass! Shine on!

  424. Susan Bowyer says:

    When I was young, I would be first up on a Saturday, racing round the block on my roller-skates. I was alone with my rolling feet, going round and round like I was going somewhere, without a care in the world! : )

  425. I think you should make your shirts into onesies! I want to start my little girl out with her “awesome” right away! Thanks for this!

  426. Bravo to you on this amazing post! I habe two daughters with personality galore which we celebrate every day! Six months ago, at 41 years old 2 friends an I had a “wake up call” & basically decided that being empowered, happy, and feeling good are of the utmost importance. We started a funny, bitchy blog that makes us and many others laugh and realize that age doesn’t mean you have to give up on ypurself. Have a rockin weekend, full of awesomeness!

  427. What a terrific post! I loved reading it, and the thoughtful comments too. While I want to teach my children self confidence, I also want to teach them some degree of humility (i.e. to respect and to see the value in everyone), and those can be hard to balance sometimes. I guess I’d like to teach my son and daughter that while they’re not and don’t need to be awesome-er, they are incredibly awesome (and so is everyone else, in his or her own way), and that they should celebrate that. I like that your post wasn’t looking at our awesome as being in competition with other people’s awesome. We can all be awesome together, right?

  428. I always send a small love note in my 6 year old daughter’s lunch box and
    she reads it to her friends at lunch. Monday’s note will read “Hannah,
    you are AWESOME. I love you, Mom”. Thank you for this awesome post.

  429. miriam gaenicke says:

    this is great!!!! LOVE THE FOTO!!!! WE SHOULD ALL BE THIS WAY!!! THANK U! :)

  430. You will never know how much I needed to hear this today, or what it meant to me to read this. But I want to say THANK YOU! Thank you so VERY much!

  431. Holy WOW! I love this post. So fantastic. Thanks for writing. Thanks for sharing.
    YOU are awesome.

  432. Love this post!! I choose to wake up full awesome!! That has been motto all week so thanks for that!!! I can remember being made fun of in elementary school and I wish I had this blog or my Mom to tell me that some people are full of shit LOL!!! And why would I listent to them I love that! thanks Melissa you are AWESOME!!!

  433. I am soooooo much a believer in your message. Why don’t we as adults feel like this every morning? I am 52 years old and just bought a black pair of Converse Tennies….Why? Because they make me feel AWESOME….like a kid again…My husband bought some too!! My granddaughters feel like this every day. They have great parents that let them be “themselves”. What a great VIBE to send out to all ages….We are all AWESOME….EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US!!! Now go outside and build a fort!!!

  434. This reminds me of the wonderful mantra in the book/movie The Help — You is smart, you is kind, you is important.”

  435. I AM FULL OF AWESOME!!!!!!!!! :)

  436. this post is beyond awesome!! thank you!!!

  437. Hi! I write a blog about my journey to a fit and healthy body – Boyfriends Make You Fat – and my friend sent me this article. I posted about it today, and put up the picture of Amelia. Of course, I linked to the blog and credited the pictures source : ) http://chubbygf.blogspot.com/2011/09/september-17-finding-awesome.html

    This is such a wonderful message, and goes beyond body image. Life gets so hard, and remembering the awesome is a good way to get through the bad stuff.

    Thank you so much for writing this!

  438. Cindy Schickendantz says:

    Melissa,
    I am asking for permission to use your daughter’s awesome picture and the article you wrote in my Red Tent class to show women who the used to be and can be again. May I use her picture? If so, how can I obtain a copy of the picture from you? I absolutely love it and the awesome sentiment behind it. I will understand if you are not keen on this idea. Cindy Schickendantz

    • Hi Cindy –
      You may use the photo of Amelia. If you click on the photo, it will bring up a fresh link and you should be able to save or print from there.

  439. I never had Awesome, not even as a little girl. So I made sure that when I had my own little girl, I would feed her Awesome for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. Even though I never had it, I knew what it was supposed to be like. So, at 22 she still is full of Awesome. She knows it and loves it. She never let anyone take it away from her. As for myself, at 48, I finally got me some Awesome too… I learned from the best, my own girl. :-)

  440. I love this post!! I’ve shared it with all my awesome followers. I have a 2yo son and a 7mo daughter. Both of them are SO awesome and I hope they ALWAYS are! I’m currently working on getting my awesome back, and helping my coaching clients do the same. Your post and pic are truly inspiring!

  441. Love, love your blog! I remember waking up full of awesome when I was a kid and yes, people full of sh__ took it away. Now I’m 45, but I am rediscovering my awesome and want to do my best to make sure our 8-yr-old daughter keeps that “full of awesome” feeling! Keep up the good work!!

  442. As a sixth grade teacher, helping eleven and twelve-year-olds restore their awesome is a full time job. I take this mission seriously and consider it every bit as important as academics. It’s sometimes difficult to help children re-discover (and in some cases “find”) their super powers, but not impossible, and it doesn’t have to be lost as they become educated. Thanks for the reminder!

  443. I just spent the day with an 18 month old chuck full of AWESOME! But so is her mom, my very best friend. My daughter is 18, and hasn’t lost her awesomeness, and won’t if I can help it. I didn’t find my AWESOME until I was in my early 40s, and will wear it proud well into my 50s which begin next summer.

  444. i saw this after a friend had linked to her post on facebook , everyone should wake up and stay feeling this way i havent for a long time ! my son who is now 8 hasnt for a while now he gets up not wanting to go to school and dragging his heels , school ,work and life in general suck your awesomeness out of you from a young age and carries on though your life if we let it ! i think every one should say no more will i let it happen to me i will be awesome again i know i am going to and i am going to help my son get his back again to , thank you for the wake up call !!!

  445. What a great message for all people! As a mom of two young boys I have to say that I love how they wake up full of awesome everyday! =) My duty as a parent is to make sure they don’t lose that…EVER! Well done.

  446. Love the shirts but I want to see the colors!!

  447. Thank you for this. So wonderful! I have two teenage girls still full of awesome. Not as much as when they were five, but we keep telling them they are and some stays.

  448. Hi there. Wrote about your article today. Love love LOVED it!

    Deb

  449. Just found/shared on FaceBook, with this note:

    “This is wonderful. And I don’t even have girls. I do have awesome sisters, cousins and nieces. But my boys were (and are) awesome, and I can prove it. I have pictures. I probably have some of me being awesome but I’d have to dig for them, because I haven’t felt awesome for some time. Happy, yes…awesome, not so much. Life has a way of whipping the awesome out of you. In any case, I hope you’ll enjoy this as much as me and notice as I did, that it’s not gender-specific.”

    Thanks for such a terrific piece.

  450. I am so full of awesomesauce, I named my blog The Fabulousness to always remind me. :) Thanks for this.

  451. You are officially still extremely AWESOME!

  452. It’s me again. :P I found some baby pictures where I was clearly happy and awesome – and I framed them. They’re currently sitting between my monitor and my Cintiq, so I can see them all the time. I don’t know if it’ll help me soften the awesome thievery (all my awesome is stolen by myself, you see) but it’s worth a shot! Scan of the pictures is at my blog. <3

    • This is a great idea! It’s a good, daily reminder of your personal awesomeness.

    • Why do you think you steal-it-from self? remove those who don’t CONSTANTLY fill you full of IT! The only was YOU become a “SELF-STEALER” is if someone else along the line STARTED -YOU-THINKING-THAT=WAY! Like the sentiment we espouse here! TAKE-IT-BACK, NOW!

  453. OMG!!! How fabulous! I cried and cried when I read this! Yes, Yes, Yes – They were all full of shit and I am now, at the age of 52, FINALLY working on getting my awesomeness back! It was always mine and damn it I was tricked into choosing sexy over smart and beautiful over bold. But the truth I am discovering is that I AM SEXY,SMART, BEAUTIFUL AND BOLD!!! I can have all of it without sacrificing any of it! Yahooooooo!!!!! I’m on my way back and not taking shit from anyone ever again!!

  454. Hey! I am interested in buying a Full of Awesome shirt and I wanted to see the other colors… could you post the other colored shirts so I can decide which one I want? Thanks! :)

  455. Very moving. I just wished I could remember waking up and feeling like that when I was a kid. I really only remember thinking I hated myself and school made it even worse. The teasing and bullying just confirmed for me what I already thought I knew.. It is still painful to think of my life as a child, even at the age of 38. It’s a wonder I grew up with any type of self esteem. I have been blessed to have found a loving and devoted Husband who thinks I am beautiful and two absolutely beautiful brilliant Daughters. This sets in stone for me how important it is to embrace their unique personalities and sense of style, weather it be at the age of 5, preteen or well into their teen years. To let them know we think they are awesome in every aspect of their young lives. Even if we think the clothes they choose are weird,or dorky, or their hair and makeup looks odd. I will from now on let them see I think they are as awesome as they think they are. Thanks!

  456. Awesome photo Amelia! :)

  457. Thank you for this wonderful post! My son is 5 and I try to revel in his awesomeness every day. My favorite picture is of him dancing to Aretha Franklin in his Transformers underwear and ‘crazy socks’ which are knee-highs with puppy portraits printed all over him. Through the years people tried to steal my awesomeness through ridicule, criticism & convention. Thankfully my awesome has a bff called ‘stubborn pride’ which got me through *most* of that intact. I’m not sure how I ever developed that… but somehow I managed to laugh in the face of my critics, & doubters. Sure – some of it still stung… but thankfully it was never BELIEVED. How do we teach our kids that self-worth?

  458. Scarlett Letter says:

    Yes, yes you are absolutely right. Someone abused and took my childhood, youthful, adulthood, sisterhood and motherhood but i was able to fight, conquered and succeeded after 55 years of my life and owed to our Almighty God The father in Heaven, a forgiven and loving Father, who always been on my side 24/7. THANK YOU, PAPA JESUS AND MAMA MARY FOR YOUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

  459. This post is….well, AWESOME. I read this one day after someone posted on Facebook.
    And I couldn’t get it out of my mind. I have daughters and granddaughters, but I wanted the business people I coach to “get it” too. So I took the liberty to quote you with proper links back so that we can broaden the reach of your message.Hope that’s okay. Let me know if it’s not and I’ll backpedal. : ) http://beverlylewis.wordpress.com/2011/09/18/get-your-awesome-here/

    This message Releases Brilliance in others. I love it.

  460. I just saw this post and it brings tears to my eyes. Happy tears that is. Because someone out there actually gets it. I am always teaching my little girls to be themselves to dress and act how they want. To be individuals and live their bliss. To not care what others think in a world full of people and magazines telling them they are not good enough the way they are. So rock on and we will continue to wake up full of awesome!!! Thanks for the post :)

  461. Am I still full of awesome if I’m a size 4x?

    • Absolutely full of awesome!

    • Jen – it just means you have excesses of femininity and awesomeness. Too much to be contained in a tooth pick body.

      • Sara McHale says:

        My spasticity from cerebral palsy keeps me from being overweight, thankyouverymuch! Am I not “full of awesome” because I have to struggle to maintain a HEALTHY WEIGHT?? NOT A CHANCE!! I am “full of awesome” due to my wonderful friends and mother who fill my life with joy and happiness.

  462. Well said ! I know this is being spread by many people and I am happy to do my part! I can’t tell you how much I love the sentiments in this and will be putting it into my grandaughters and grandson’s scrapbooks so that they may be reminded how awesome they are now and later as they live their lives. This world holds some cruel and evil elements but we need to spread the word and take back the awesome in all our lives.

  463. If you’re smart and bold, you ARE sexy and beautiful! This post made my day.

  464. I LOVE this and am printing it off to put on the wall of each of my three daughters’ bedroom walls. I am a happy weirdo and encourage my children to be uniquely themselves. I have noticed that all my children, but especially my daughters start to struggle with conforming or being who they really want to be as they enter middle school. So far, I’ve noticed one daughter begin to find her bliss again her senior year of high school…hopefully as the other two grow, they too will become comfortable with their awesome too. Here’s to tutus and rain boots at 5 and 45 <3

  465. My 18 year old daughter and 21 year old son wake up full of awesome (because it is stolen from boys, too.). For the most part, I still wake up full of awesome (health issues some days mean I do not wake up with as much awesome – too busy trying to get the brain to work and the balance back). This is something I had to learn as an adult and so while I learned, I shared with my children. The first rule to always feeling awesome is to remember that if a person decides they do not like you before they get to know you, it is their loss, not yours. Second rule – always remember the first rule.

  466. I love this entry. it so awesome, wonderful, empowering, excellent. -Kristen

  467. I know you’re a tshirt company for kids…but I’m a 42 year old trainer who’d LOVELOVELOVE to have a racerback tank that says that! lol!

  468. I don’t even have daughters, but this post is awesome! Well said! I need to start practicing this with my boys.

  469. Thank you so much, I really needed this.

  470. What a great post. You said exactly what needs to be said – again and again and … you got it … again!

  471. Thank you from the bottom of my AWESOME heart. <3

  472. I read this the day before going into labor. As I walked back and forth in the dark along a section of our neighborhood bike trail trying to turn early labor into active labor, I repeatedly told myself that I was “full of awesome.” :)

  473. I just LOVE your “Full of Awesome” piece and i think your daughter looks awesome in that photo. Keep up the good work.

  474. Totally wake up daily full of awesome!!

  475. this is incredible share with everyon…awareness is powerful stuff and so are our spirits

  476. Our children are first and foremost what we make them out to be; COMBATTING the bullying-type exposure that might come later is best addressed by building their self-esteems from birth onto toddling and into adulthood. My parents always made me feel awesome; My best-friends in school chided each other constantly, inhumanely (but I luv them) that’s just how we rolled; BUT B/CUZ of foundation, no-one could take-it from me!! THANKS Ma & Pa;

  477. WOW – what a fantastic post, absolutely love it!

  478. I got this from a friend’s FB page. Having twin 6 year old girls, I didn’t realize that someone could take their awesomeness from them. From this page, I have learned that I can’t take it from them and I have to ensure that no one ever does as they blossom into their full awesomeness. Thanks for teaching me something I would not have learned anywhere else. I am truly grateful.

  479. Thank you so much for sharing this :) I work at a university counseling center and we used this for a body image/self-esteem workshop that we put on for a group of women living in a residence hall. I read this to the women at the end of our workshop, and had them close their eyes and imagine when they were full of awesome. It’s such an inspiring message for women of all ages. Thank you!

  480. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I so needed to read this. So sad, I do not remember what the age of 5 looks like. But I did give my awesome to someone. I gave it away. I need to get it back and I thank you for your word encouraging me to do so.

  481. My 2 year old son is often this full of awesome. He is the strangest cat I know but we tell him everyday how cool that makes him. He has a friendly greeting for everyone we meet, he runs around naked in a batman mask, will monkey dance to any music he likes (including rock, musicals and elevator music) and he tells every asian woman he sees that he loves her…He is the purest form of himself everywhere we go and his little soul is the light of my life!

  482. LOVE this!
    Will share it with my daughters and their girl scout troops.
    Want to share with you the essay I did for NPR’s This I Believe last year… about being All The Way Full.

    http://www.publicbroadcasting.net/wrni/news.newsmain/article/7148/0/1675175/This.I.Believe.Rhode.Island/All.the.Way.Full

    cheers!
    Bekah

  483. Ngioka's Mum says:

    Dear Amelia,

    How awesome are you! I say that because I saw your photo and you look exactly like my daughter, Ngioka who is now 12. I even showed Ngioka your photo and she asked when she had brown leggings. When Her Dad and I said that it was you, she kept saying how awesome you were. I am going to find a photo of her doing the same rock star pose and post it for you. I also managed to tell Ngioka that it could be her because you are in the USA and she is in Canberra, Australia. That means though, that there is twice the awesomeness girl power on both sides of the world.
    Keep being amazing
    Jo
    (The Mum of the AMAZING :) Ngioka)

  484. Oh. My. Goodness. This *post* was awesome! You worded this so incredibly well. Thank you!!

  485. Wow, I needed that – brilliantly put, I’ve printed it out and am putting it where I can see it everyday. You’re spreading the word on Pinterest too! Thanks for your inspiring positivity! Jo

  486. Want to help your older girl experience some “awesome”? Check out the Girls on the Run program sponsored by YMCA. It’s a running club/self-esteem class for girls 8-10 and culminates with a 5k. Now that’s AWESOME!

  487. Everyone else has already said most of what I’d like to after reading this incredibly insightful piece of work. Brilliant! Thank you for reminding us to tap into that inner invincibility we used to feel so naturally. I’m going to share this with my granddaughters’ parents! :)

  488. This is such a happy picture.I wish all our girls were so happy for who they are.

  489. Fantastic post and dead on correct! What happened to the awesome?? I was fortunate enough to have a good friend send me the link to this blog and I will certainly be forwarding it on to many as well :) Thanks for the inspiration!

  490. Thank you for reminding me to find the girl that made me sparkle when I was a kid! Brilliant post.

    Peace!

  491. I thought someone took my awesome years ago and I have been trying to get it back ever since. I learned that awesome lives deep inside where noone can get to it unless you let them. My niece wakes up like this every day and I love it! Great job!!

  492. Amanda Bell says:

    You know, I read this about once a week. I get teary eyed every time. Thank you for this.

    • I also read this at least once a week. It makes me feel different in my own skin. The power of words. The power of children. The power of community. The power of women and girls. It’s all here. I wish I could get everyone I know, heck, everyone in this world, to read this post and take back the awesome. Somewhere along the way, I’ve misplaced some of my awesome, but I’m searching myself and finding it again, but by bit.
      This is my favorite thing I’ve ever read online. Ever.

  493. J Manjarrez says:

    Hiya,
    This was posted on Facebook by my brother’s sister-in-law, Christine Yokoi.
    I saw this and had to repost it myself.
    Having a daughter that is almost 2, it got me a little choked-up. She IS currently full of awesome. She is bright, funny, and stubborn. It breaks my heart to know that there ARE people out there who thrive on pissing all over someone’s awesome.
    I hope, with equal efforts from my lovely wife, to instill in her the knowledge that NO ONE should be allowed to take that away from her.
    Thank you for an awesome post that had me thinking, really thinking, about perceptions, presented images and beliefs of perfection, and the farkin’ truckload of awesome that children possess……and how it gets crushed when people aen’t careful or just don’t care.

    Thank you.

  494. THANK YOU!

  495. Thank you, I am a 42 year old woman who did lose her awesome many years ago, found some of it 3 years back and am learning everyday how to keep it.

    My wonderful, loving daughter sent me this blog and I am so glad she did because yes, I do now remember my awesome.

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, author and my girl. LOVE ya

  496. Awesome post complete with awesome shirts that make me feel awesome!

    Have you considered putting a stencil of the adorable photo ^ on a shirt? I feel like it would take them from awesome to super-mega-ultra-combo-awesome.

  497. She’s full of awesome because she’s THIN and her family gives her everything she needs.
    Fat kids, kids with thick glasses, ugly kids, kids whose parents can’t afford to buy them nice stuff or clothes are stripped of their “awesomeness” by other kids.
    Sadly, it can happen in every stage your life.

    • How do you know if she has everything she needs? Wants? Owns nice clothes?

      This kid is full of awesome because she can’t help herself. She loves herself and everything about life.

      I know beautiful people who lost their awesome. I’ve met some of the poorest kids in South Africa who have literally not a pot to piss in, but are full of awesome.

      I had thick glasses as a kid, I kept my awesome in tact.

      Awesome is a choice. It is about resilience.

  498. Melissa,
    Keep writing! You can make a difference in a lot of girl’s lives with your ‘awesome’ perspective. I went camping by myself this weekend, built a campfire and stayed in the woods…..hiked and took photos. Awesome! I’m 63 still doing some things for the first time, by myself.
    Life is full of twists and turns and girls are tough.
    Love to you and yours,
    Chris

  499. Love. This. Post. So much so that I linked back to it on my blog http://broadh2o.blogspot.com. Thanks for sharing this incredible post.

  500. Just plain AWESOME and so true. Thanks!

  501. Not only is your daughter full of awesome, so are you and because of that your daughter will be full of awesome forever!!

  502. I was sent the link from a friend for your Awesome T-shirts because I have been posting on Facebook for about a year posts about being awesome, finding your awesome etc. I even have several pictures that I use as my profile page that state “Never underestimate how awesome you are” etc. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this blog. I think everyone should read it, recite it in the morning and keep it in their reach for any bad days. I know that I’m not the only one who blogs or posts on FB about being awesome, but I am so happy to come across this site- and see others spreading the awesome! And I’ve already got one of the shirts on my Christmas list! :)

  503. This changed my life!!!

    Truly!

  504. LOVE this and SO true!! Once again you hit it right one- and gave us all a reason to remember how awesome we truly are and how it is imperative that we nurture our children’s awesomeness!! Thanks Melissa!

  505. I love this post. I have it bookmarked and visit it at least once a week. I printed it and taped it to my kitchen cabinet where I can see it several times a day. My close friend and I remind each other, “you are AWESOME” as often as we can. I am trying to get my awesome back, and working to make sure that my children never lose theirs! This post has really been inspirational for me!

  506. Thank you for this today. I am always telling others things like this, but I fail to remember it for myself. Thank you for reminding me.
    I am still awesome!

  507. Brilliant post. We shared it on our page for our readers. I must say I have been struggling with that myself lately. My ex husband tries time and time again to take my awesome away. I printed this out to keep for my daughter, my sons and I to read over an over again! Thank you so much!! XO Kimberly

  508. This really spoked to me! thanbk you so much for reminding me about my AWESOME!!!!
    I hace 3 young daughters and I want them to always hold onto there AWESOME!!!!

  509. THANK YOU!!!!!

  510. I had forgotten all about my awesome and how full of awesome I was when I was that very same little girl with missing teeth and mis-matched socks. She is still inside of me. It’s time to wake her up. Thank you for the inspiration.

  511. If you ever decided to have this printed large-scale to be framed, I’d gladly purchase multiple copies. I have a lot of friends who’ve lost their awesome and could use this reminder. I’d like it to be the first thing we all saw when we first opened our eyes in the morning.

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

    • I was just thinking the same thing! I would love a poster with this to hang in my daughter’s bathroom!

      • Me too!!! As a mother of a teenage girl that has struggled with an eating disorder, and myself, at over 40 who still struggles with self-image, this is so great! Thank you

  512. Janice Holladay says:

    Very cool.

  513. I think I’ve just found my 2012 New Year’s Resolution – find my awesome! Thank you :)

  514. Can we get that on posters in every junior/high school in the country? You rock. Thank you for being AWESOME!

  515. You have no idea how often I have used this phrase ever since my 4 year old’s Godmother turned me onto it and your blog. I use it for myself and to defend my girls when they are criticized by friends, MY firends and yes, even family members. I will not sit around and allow my daughters to be made to feel inferior because they choose to wear stripes with polka dots or go to the grocery store dressed as a princess or Scooby Doo, when they decide to play with cars or build with blocks or be the girlest of girly girls. I want them to be individuals, not scuplted by society. THANK YOU and keep the awesome coming!!

    • Thank you, Lisa!

      Your girls sound amazing. Stripes with polka dots (in clashing colors of course) is a must at our house! High five those girls for me, and know in your heart that they are full of awesome because your limitless love allows them to be.

  516. Hello Melissa

    I feel children are a mirror of there parents,so you must be FULL of Awesome! Thx for sharing, i stumbled upon your blog via Pinterest!

    Cadischa from Amsterdam, Holland

  517. I wasn’t that way at 5.

    • Me neither…something about being sexually molested and told your fat and ugly by family members kinda takes it outta you at that age…bless all who had Awesome at age 5. the god news is I have awesome now cause I have learned how to identify with those who hurt, and know I that I have the compassion and capabilities to assist others thru their pain. Most of all I have chosen to to be happy and spread that happiness to those around me as much as possible. Mostly, I think, It is a choice to be/feel awesome. You have that option to define yourself..if you want to be awesome…then don’t just talk the talk…walk the walk..be awesome not just for yourself…but others (its contagious)

  518. Thank you so much I remember that feeling and somewhere inside it was hidden but thanks to you I found it and and hope I never lose it again !

  519. Love this!!!! very appropriate for “us gals” of all ages!! I will remember this tomorrow morning :) Thanks.

    • Hi Everyone, I’m another Shirley and I ditto the above Shirley’s comment. Thanks I needed to see this today as I was feeling very down and invisable today. I will think good thoughts today and hopefully keep it up for the rest of the duration. Have a good one and many more!!!!

  520. i lost my awesome, but i reclaimed it with a vengeance!

  521. AWESOME!

  522. I hope you don’t mind but I encorporated this into my own blog. This is amazing and all girls, teens, women (boys and men included) should read it. Thank you so much for writing this. Your daughter is AWESOME!!!!!

  523. I’m getting my “awesome” back, and I so believe you. I’d rather my daughter be smart and bold any day! I think we all need to live with the confidence in our life that prooves to us that being us is wonderful!!!

  524. I found this post via pinterest a few months ago and I was inspired! I have been thinking of writing something simular and using the FULL OF AWESOME as my new motto…then I was re-reminded (yes I made that word up) of your post when I found a picture of myself at 5 or 6 in a bathing suit, heart shapped glasses hand on my hip and full of awesome! I am working on getting my awesome back!!

  525. Glenda Dupuis says:

    Your right! She is awesome, and so is my daughter, and so am I, and so are you! Your right again, sometimes we let other people tell us we are not, but then, out of a clear blue screen, somebody like you pops up to remind us! Thanks for the reminder!
    Embrace life, embrace your awesomeness! What a wonderful reminder! Thank you!

  526. Nicole says:

    I totally love this! I am twenty-one and in the midst of still trying to keep my awesome. I try to remind myself every day and it is hard sometimes, but i think it is important. Reading this definitely brightened my life today. :)

  527. Erin Behen says:

    what a great reminder…and I can definitely say that I don’t always wake up full of awesome, but i’m going to see what I can do to change that. Both of my babies still wake up full of awesome and perhaps it’s time to learn a lesson from them and attempt a more carefree attitude so they keep doing this.

  528. A friend just shared this on Facebook (with full credit given to this site), and I had to come out here to say THANK YOU. I don’t have a little girl, but I was that 5 year old, too… and this made me cry! I do have a little boy who could grow up needing to be reminded of *his* own awesome, though, and someday, the awesomeness of a wife or a daughter… THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!

  529. Michelle says:

    Thank you for this, everyone needs to remember they are awesome everyday, and all mothers should be teaching this to their daughters no matter what age they are, especially if they are grown and forgot.

  530. OMG, made me cry. Yes, I use to be full of awesome but I let them take it away feom me. Even though I have tried for years to keep my head above water and maintain the girl I was, this message has made me see that I can do it.

  531. This is so sweet, but I don’t think I ever had “the awesome,” as a kid. I can remember hating myself from as early as 3 years old :(

  532. This post has inspired me, I was having a down day, really not feeling good about myself, at 21 years old, this has enlightened me, thank you

  533. Found this on Pinterest and followed the link back here to read the entire entry. Hope ur little girl nvr loses her awesome! Thx for posting :D

  534. This is so true and so INCREDIBLE! I’m painting this on our wall so we see it everyday! Thank you, thank you a million times! Much love!

  535. You’re fabulous.

  536. Thank you. This post made me smile, and think. I needed that.

  537. Nice message undone by the remark that some people may “be full of shit”. Does being awesome override being empathetic and considerate of others, even those that are sometimes mean for reasons we cannot fathom? I am not reading this and feeling inspired, I’m reading this and feeling sad that something well meaning can so easily become “us versus them” with scant regard for who they are and what they are going through.

  538. I shared this on my blog and I really love your initiative :)

  539. I read this often and embrace it, even 3 years after the orginal post. It has been bookmarked on multiple computers and shared multiple times. Love it!

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  11. [...] we put Riley to bed last night, I came across this beautifully written blog post called “Waking Up Full of Awesome”. Melissa is so right on with this post and I couldn’t have read it at a better time. Like the [...]

  12. [...] came across an awesome awesome post the other day entitled Waking Up Full of Awesome over at  Pigtail Pals whose mission is to redefine the way we think about girls. From their [...]

  13. [...] So I was on The Facebook today and someone shared a link to a blog post Waking up Full of Awesome? [...]

  14. [...] especially important for moms of girls (but totally relevant for ALL of us). It’s called Waking Up Full of Awesome – go check it [...]

  15. [...] August 3rd post on this blog, PigTailPals, is titled Waking-Up-Full-of-Awesome.  I’ve never seen this blog before tonight, and I [...]

  16. [...] Waking up full of awesome: Remember when you were five and woke up every day feeling like a superhero who was awesome and could rule the world? When did you stop waking up like that? Why? [...]

  17. [...] that I shared on Facebook that struck a cord with many parents. The title of the post is Waking Up Full of Awesome. If you haven’t read it, please check out the link as it is short but [...]

  18. [...] read a really interesting blog article that talked about finding your inner awesome….in my house, we call it ‘keeping your spa…lovely J had no trouble keeping her sparkle this morning, in fact she had sparkle to spare! I asker [...]

  19. [...] Waking Up Full of Awesome. Eco World Content From Across The Internet. Featured on EcoPressed Google reveals [...]

  20. [...] Waking Up Full of Awesome [...]

  21. [...] if you aren’t waking up feeling like this about yourself, you are really missing out.   From    via      September 12th, 2011 | Category: Inspirational, [...]

  22. [...] Amelia Says Good Morning PigTailPails.com [...]

  23. [...] not “enough”. For women and men alike.. this so applies    — from the Pigtailpals blog… “There was a time when you were five years old, and you woke up full of awesome. You [...]

  24. [...] blog is called Pigtail Pals and the post is called Waking Up Full of Awesome… “There was a time when you were five [...]

  25. [...] you read any further, please go read this post: Waking Up Awesome. It’ll only take a minute. I’ll wait right [...]

  26. [...] sister showed me this awesome blog post today about being awesome. The link for it is here, it’s basically about how when you are five. You’re awesome. You’re so awesome. [...]

  27. [...] you think for yourself? Do you give the people you love the chance to think for themselves? Do you wake up full of Awesome? This entry was posted in authenticity and tagged confidence, image by admin. Bookmark the [...]

  28. [...] sister steered me to a blog with a brilliant post titled “Waking Up Full of Awesome.” It’s about how once upon a time as little kids we all thought we were so awesome, [...]

  29. [...] This is a great blog that all Moms and Dads should read…and anyone out there trying to find their awesomeness. Share This: | More [...]

  30. [...] thankful that Waking Up Full of Awesome went viral. Melissa Wardy over at Pigtail Pals is one kick-butt woman who is a tireless advocate [...]

  31. [...] were tickled and inspired by a recent post on Pigtail Pals, a blog “dedicated to changing the way we think about girls.” It was called Waking Up [...]

  32. [...] click-staggered into “waking up full of awesome”. I’ll take it one level of abstraction higher: America is still full of awesome. You wake up [...]

  33. [...] wrote this little blog post a few weeks back, just something simple one morning after my muse, my daughter, gave me a little [...]

  34. [...] Get reminded of how utterly awesome you are. — Redefine Girly [...]

  35. [...] size and they’re portable.  We take them as snacks when we’re travelling. “Full of awesome” is a catchy phrase I picked up from my favorite girl-power blog and entrepreneur- Pigtail [...]

  36. [...] stumbled across a great blog called Pigtail Pals: Redefine Girly! and the first post I read was Waking Up Full of Awesome. The whole blog is about empowering girls to feel confident about who they are, not to buy into [...]

  37. [...] another one, starting with a poem to remind us how much we loved ourselves at the age of five, and how we should strive to rediscover that [...]

  38. [...] The promise I made to myself on my 25th birthday was that the coming year would be full of awesome. And it has been. So much so. Renewed friendships, new friendships… so much laughter. So much dancing. So much world hopping. So much learning. So much fun. Because I woke up one day and realized that awesomeness is a choice. [...]

  39. [...] the same vein, a friend linked me this post earlier this week, when I was in my pit. It made me think. I can’t remember ever feeling [...]

  40. [...] done while away but came across a post referred by Boyfriends make you fat‘s, Julia. In Waking up full of awesome Melissa, a mother, notices how her daughter wakes up each day excited and eager to greet the [...]

  41. [...] Waking Up Full of Awesome – Pigtail Pals.  On the particular brand of awesome that is the 5 year old girl. [...]

  42. [...] Pals to redefine “girly.” She’s got a lot of amazing stuff on her website, but this post is my favorite, and here’s my favorite part: There was a time when you were five years old, and you woke [...]

  43. [...] Waking Up Full of Awesome and A Letter to Bella, and Other Girls With Blue Shoes – Even my husband couldn’t get [...]

  44. [...] Waking Up Full of Awesome. Share this:EmailPrintLike this:LikeBe the first to like this post. This entry was posted in Uncategorized by oddplum. Bookmark the permalink. [...]

  45. [...] Gump, not always seeing the big picture, but very focused on the details. Much like this blog, http://blog.pigtailpals.com/2011/08/waking-up-full-of-awesome, I always woke up full of awesome. I woke up full of awesome until about 7th grade, then I woke up [...]

  46. [...] with all sort of other girl qualities instead. This is the same woman, Melissa, who wrote the Waking Up Full of Awesome post that someone may have passed along to you already. So there’s a “Full of Awesome” [...]

  47. [...] LOVE the outfits Ry chooses to wear. I love her creativity and I always, always want her to “wake up full of awesome!” {Side note: you must go read that post…go ahead, I’ll [...]

  48. [...] from PigtailPals.com posted this short essay on August 3, 2011. Six weeks later, it had collected 412,000 views. I know. [...]

  49. [...] How to wake up full of awesome. [...]

  50. [...] post nearly brought a tear to my [...]

  51. [...] he had a post up today on a similar topic, where he cited another blogger’s post about ‘waking up full of awesome.’  I just loved [...]

  52. [...] it and it is my why. There is a whole movement underway to save girlhood, support girls, “redefine girly,” empower girls to think and be strong, bold, smart…basically to not hide from being a [...]

  53. [...] neighborhood bike trail for 45 minutes.  With each contraction I laughed to myself that I was full of awesome and would soon be holding you in my [...]

  54. [...] you haven’t read this viral post, you absolutely must. I like how Melissa Wardy points out that our little girls don’t [...]

  55. [...] marvelous picture came from a blog post sent to me by a friend today as we were discussing what it means to love oneself.  Just look at [...]

  56. [...] up full of awesome and ready to do it [...]

  57. [...] been paying for it. Stayed in and watched television and did some organizing. Woke up feeling awesome and went for a quick mile and a half run around downtown. It wasn’t a difficult run and I [...]

  58. [...] ways to empower my girls.  And look for the other women who are creating change. Blogs like this one are a good place to [...]

  59. [...] post is called: Waking Up Full of Awesome and it. is. awesome. And it so spoke to me …and a crapload of other people, too, as you can [...]

  60. [...] read this post around the same time, as a friend had shared it with me.  A fun [...]

  61. [...] on someone else’s blog, and since I can’t say it any better myself, I leave you with this. Happy [...]

  62. [...] from Pigtail Pals, which you should absolutely check [...]

  63. [...] of mine posted something from this blog a while ago that was really well written and inspiring. (read it here) What a great resource for parents, particularly for those who encourage their daughters to be [...]

  64. [...] Waking up full of AWESOME! There was a time when you were five years old, and you woke up full of awesome. You knew you were awesome. You loved yourself. You thought you were beautiful, even with missing teeth and messy hair and mismatched socks inside your grubby sneakers. You loved your body, and the things it could do. You thought you were strong. You knew you were smart. Do you still have it? The awesome. Did someone take it from you? Did you let them? Did you hand it over, because someone told you weren’t beautiful enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough? Why the hell would you listen to them? Did you consider they might be full of shit? Wouldn’t that be nuts, to tell my little girl below that in another five or ten years she might hate herself because she doesn’t look like a starving and Photoshopped fashion model? Or even more bizarre, that she should be sexy over smart, beautiful over bold? Are you freaking kidding me? Look at her. She is full of awesome. You were, once. Maybe you still are. Maybe you are in the process of getting it back. All I know is that if you aren’t waking up feeling like this about yourself, you are really missing out. Courtesy of pigtailpals.com [...]

  65. [...] it to me. Click on the red words to see the original post – it’s worth the visit! Waking Up Full of Awesome There was a time when you were five years old, and you woke up full of awesome. You knew you were [...]

  66. [...] the blog post that was inspired by the cool pic of this rockin’ girl