“Be bold in thought. Be kind with words. Be meaningful through actions.” -Melissa Atkins Wardy, to the young women and girls on the internet.
Last week news channels and parent blogs were abuzz with the story of tween/teen girls posting “Am I Ugly” videos on You Tube for strangers to comment on. It was difficult to watch the young girls give away their power, as my friend, author, and girl expert Deborah Reber explains in her post. We want to see girls using social media for good, like this video from our friends at New Moon Girls.
As adults, as mothers and aunties and grandmothers and sisters and friends, we need to encourage these girls to act with more meaning. I think back to all of the activities I did in high school with my friends – sports, band, choir, cheerleading, writing for the school paper, Student Council, hanging out at the beach or basketball courts….not once, NOT ONCE, did it ever occur to us to stop what we were doing and ask strangers if they thought we were ugly.
Social media has changed the world for kids, and women need to mentor younger girls on how harness to power of social media for good, like my rock star of a gal pal Emily Anne does with We Stop Hate. Other young women have launched game-changer campaigns like Lindsay and Lexie Kite from Beauty Redefined, or the teens from Powered By Girl (PBG) who use satire and humor to critique the awful marketing messages girls take in. These are ladies who recognized their power, and run with it.
Let’s raise our girls that instead of asking strangers to tell you if you are ugly, they self-confidence to go to the people who love and care about them, and ask them to tell the ways you are beautiful. Let’s show our girls that beauty quickly goes past pretty hair and sparkly eyes, and gets right to the soul of who they are. And who they are is beautiful, if they allow her to be.
We’re going to keep updating the Pigtail Pals and New Moon Girl You Tube channels with videos submitted by you, reinforcing to girls that they are beautiful and to look deeper for their authentic self.
Encourage your kids to make videos, too! I like this video from Pigtail Pals Community Member Kate G. who celebrates the beautiful people in her life.
Submit videos to firstname.lastname@example.org.