Why my daughter will not be limited to a 1950's era house-cleaing, cupcake-baking, princess-and-fashion-worshiping sex kitten glitter bomb

One of the great many reasons I become so annoyed with marketers and toy companies reducing my daughter to a 1950’s era house-cleaing, cupcake-baking, princess-and-fashion-worshiping sex kitten glitter bomb is that the following is a list of topics we just discussed before I could get my seven year old to go to sleep tonight:

– Imperial colonization of Africa
– Trans-Atlantic slave trade
– how to build a rondoval
– how humans started navigating the Earth
– how different cultures pass diseases to each other
– what was life like in ancient Greece and Egypt
– how does time pass, starting with the cave people
– the stratification of wealth in Africa
– will I buy her the Star Wars game she wants
– can constipation kill you
– what did cave people’s feet look like
– how did the ancient Celts make underwear
– do I love her a smidge more than I love her little brother
– did cave people wear skins fur side in, or fur side out
– sanitation practices of anciet Egypt

When we limit our daughters, we limit our daughters. Luckily for me, I had great advice and a strong intuition not to limit my daughter to what the pink aisles held for her. Instead I offered her the world.

And each night, she goes to bed knowing the world is hers.


  1. You make it sound like it’s a bad thing if she decides when she’s an adult that she’d be happy being to be a 1950?s era house-cleaning, cupcake-baking, princess-and-fashion-worshiping sex kitten glitter bomb.

  2. Funny, my mom gave me the same thing you are giving your girls. All I really wanted was to be a stay-at-home mom, baking cup-cakes and raising my kids. Did I settle? No, I fought against my the oppressive anti-homemaker ideal. My world is the fullest it could possibly be. No career would ever be as fulfilling as being my own boss, running our household and leading my children every (and not just after an 8 hour work day… I mean every) step of the way.

  3. I thought I should add, being my own boss means I get to do things like explore science museums, learn Greek (and teach it to my kids), take off-season vacations, never have to worry about not having enough “sick time” and be free to volunteer where ever and whenever people are most in need… but I’m just a silly at-home mom, so surely every woman should want more than the self governed, free to explore, able to give life that I lead.

    • Momma Ley –
      I think what you are missing is that you had the opportunity to *choose* that life for yourself, it was not forced upon you. It seems to be the right decision for you, that is wonderful. Other women need careers to allow them to feel fulfilled, there is nothing wrong with that, even if they are mothers. You first comment read a tish like a bait for mommy wars, which I will not get into, except to say I know stay-at-home moms who do nothing with their kids for twelves hours a day and I know working moms who are amazing and present and engaged the three or fours hours during the work week they do see their kids.

      This blog and this company are about choice. You made a choice for your life, it seems to be working nicely for you. But that has nothing to do with this. This is about girls not being given a choice. This isn’t about you. It is about the girls by the thousands who receive very narrow, limited messages about what it means to be a girl.

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