I’m no mathematician, but I do not see advocating for childhood to be a healthier place for our children to be a zero-sum game. We need people supporting breastfeeding just as much as we need those who are focused on getting kids active and eating right. We need school and literacy advocates just as much as we need anti-poverty experts. Sadly, there are enough issues facing our kids to keep all of us very, very busy. Overall, we need people supporting girls just as much as we need people supporting boys. We don’t abandon one group in order to serve another.
So when an article came out yesterday telling people like myself and my colleagues to stop focusing on girls and Pink Culture because “what about the boys?”, I was hesitant to share it. I did share a quote from the end of it that I agreed with, but I suppose that was an odd thing to do because I disagreed with the rest of the article. Or better said — with the way it was written.
I advocate for both boys and girls, but my work does tend to skew more towards girlhood because that is where I see the bulk of the problems with children’s media. Maybe that is because I am female, maybe that is because I’ve been a parent to a girl longer than I’ve been a parent to boy. Maybe it is because I see some level of violence to be a natural part of childhood development (read “Killing Monsters” and “The War Play Dilemma”) and I see the sexualization of girls as completely unnatural and encouraged by the corporations who profit from it.
I will continue to write about, advocate for, and care deeply about our boys. But in so doing, I don’t have to abandon our girls. Neither do my colleagues. We wouldn’t think of doing that, not for a minute.
A must read on this:
( Rebecca Hains)